just wondering
If there were a God, could he stop time?
What does it mean if he couldn't?
What if he could?
Is erasing our awareness and the evidence of the passage of time stopping time?
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There was a scene in a movie where the father and mother were separated. The father had an unstable work history, but seemed decent. The mother said that the son shouldn't have visitations with him until his life were more stable.
This sort of stance makes me want to smack people. There are plenty of people who think that if you don't have a very predictable life with bed times, bowel movements, and meals like clockwork it will prevent you from developing in a healthy manner.
I really wish we could shed this fantasy. Leave it to Beaver has been over for more than 40 years. The Brady Bunch over for 30 years. The world will not end, nor will your children become serial killers if they are not kept on a strict routine.
I really don't believe that children gain stability and a feeling of security from regimens.
Life is just not like that. Can you imagine the distress of unexpected changes to someone brought up in strict routines? How the hell are you supposed to cope with uncertainties and changes, when you have been conditioned to exist by the clock?
I think children gain security and stability from the unwavering love and support of their families while the world changes around them. I think they should rely on things that are more secure for that sense of connectedness.. The sun rises and sets.. the stars circle around.. the wind blows.. these are much more constant than bedtimes.
I am a firm believer in sleeping when you are tired, eating when you are hungry, and everything else.
People who say that kids just won't do what's good for them, unless you make them.. they don't understand shit. Kids are people too and they learn what is best.
Often the choice is simple... force a child to listen or teach the child a lesson.
Example... Child is in the swimming pool and it is getting cold.
You tell the child to come out before they get too cold.
Child wants to stay.
You can either force child out.. and the next time .. force the child out.. and the next time.. force the child out...
or
Let the child get cold and come out on their own... then next time.. the child comes out before they get too cold.. etc
Being cold and wet isn't pleasant!
I much prefer this method.. and as an added bonus! When you do insist that your child does something.. THEY LISTEN.. because they know it must be important for you to command it.
They also know that when you warn them of something, you're often right! Because you let them learn it themselves.
Direct your kids.. teach them. Command them only when it's a serious matter. Show them how to navigate the expectations of society. Kids want to be good! Kids want to learn!
What does it mean if he couldn't?
What if he could?
Is erasing our awareness and the evidence of the passage of time stopping time?
--
There was a scene in a movie where the father and mother were separated. The father had an unstable work history, but seemed decent. The mother said that the son shouldn't have visitations with him until his life were more stable.
This sort of stance makes me want to smack people. There are plenty of people who think that if you don't have a very predictable life with bed times, bowel movements, and meals like clockwork it will prevent you from developing in a healthy manner.
I really wish we could shed this fantasy. Leave it to Beaver has been over for more than 40 years. The Brady Bunch over for 30 years. The world will not end, nor will your children become serial killers if they are not kept on a strict routine.
I really don't believe that children gain stability and a feeling of security from regimens.
Life is just not like that. Can you imagine the distress of unexpected changes to someone brought up in strict routines? How the hell are you supposed to cope with uncertainties and changes, when you have been conditioned to exist by the clock?
I think children gain security and stability from the unwavering love and support of their families while the world changes around them. I think they should rely on things that are more secure for that sense of connectedness.. The sun rises and sets.. the stars circle around.. the wind blows.. these are much more constant than bedtimes.
I am a firm believer in sleeping when you are tired, eating when you are hungry, and everything else.
People who say that kids just won't do what's good for them, unless you make them.. they don't understand shit. Kids are people too and they learn what is best.
Often the choice is simple... force a child to listen or teach the child a lesson.
Example... Child is in the swimming pool and it is getting cold.
You tell the child to come out before they get too cold.
Child wants to stay.
You can either force child out.. and the next time .. force the child out.. and the next time.. force the child out...
or
Let the child get cold and come out on their own... then next time.. the child comes out before they get too cold.. etc
Being cold and wet isn't pleasant!
I much prefer this method.. and as an added bonus! When you do insist that your child does something.. THEY LISTEN.. because they know it must be important for you to command it.
They also know that when you warn them of something, you're often right! Because you let them learn it themselves.
Direct your kids.. teach them. Command them only when it's a serious matter. Show them how to navigate the expectations of society. Kids want to be good! Kids want to learn!