Thoughs..
A friend of mine suggested I write something on my views on D/s or M/s or whatever, since I have my own views, and I seem to read a lot of sub's journals *grin*
It seems to me, that some Masters thinks the whole Master/slave thing is about their pleasure, and getting their slave's to do obsene things and rituals, without worrying about the mental state/health of their sub. To me, being a Dom, I feel that the mental state/health is very important to take care of.
I think the relationship should be built on mutual respect and love. Sure, there is going to be limit pushing, thats part of the D/s game, but I don't think the limit pushing should go too far, I don't want to destroy the person, I want them to enjoy the experience as well.
I want to be the person my sub can come to with anything, and not have to worry about getting punished for her believes of thoughts. I want to be the one that supports her in her life, helps her grow, both as my sub, but also as a woman.
Part of what I would like a sub to be, is there for me, sending me an email when she can, so I know she is thinking of me, coming online when she can to spend time with me. I want her to send me pictures of her, showing me how she loves to show herself off for me. I get off on her doing tasks for me, be it go outside without underwear and bra, dress a certain way, or wearing a buttplug while talking to me or doing a task, or just masturbating a certain way ;)
What does not get me off is rituals, or weird tasks or mind games. I hate people that play with peoples minds and feelings, its not fair, its not nice. Feelings is not something that should be fucked with.
I also realise that subs have lives to live outside of being a sub. As a Dom, I don't think that can be ignored, and I would expect the same from any sub, since I do have a live my life too. Sometimes that means not being able to be there for my sub when she wants me, and that is unfortunate, but goes both ways, sometimes she won't have time, and thats fine too.
Ok, I'll stop rambling now ;)
It seems to me, that some Masters thinks the whole Master/slave thing is about their pleasure, and getting their slave's to do obsene things and rituals, without worrying about the mental state/health of their sub. To me, being a Dom, I feel that the mental state/health is very important to take care of.
I think the relationship should be built on mutual respect and love. Sure, there is going to be limit pushing, thats part of the D/s game, but I don't think the limit pushing should go too far, I don't want to destroy the person, I want them to enjoy the experience as well.
I want to be the person my sub can come to with anything, and not have to worry about getting punished for her believes of thoughts. I want to be the one that supports her in her life, helps her grow, both as my sub, but also as a woman.
Part of what I would like a sub to be, is there for me, sending me an email when she can, so I know she is thinking of me, coming online when she can to spend time with me. I want her to send me pictures of her, showing me how she loves to show herself off for me. I get off on her doing tasks for me, be it go outside without underwear and bra, dress a certain way, or wearing a buttplug while talking to me or doing a task, or just masturbating a certain way ;)
What does not get me off is rituals, or weird tasks or mind games. I hate people that play with peoples minds and feelings, its not fair, its not nice. Feelings is not something that should be fucked with.
I also realise that subs have lives to live outside of being a sub. As a Dom, I don't think that can be ignored, and I would expect the same from any sub, since I do have a live my life too. Sometimes that means not being able to be there for my sub when she wants me, and that is unfortunate, but goes both ways, sometimes she won't have time, and thats fine too.
Ok, I'll stop rambling now ;)