Tits or GTFO.
So a little bird told me I was mentioned rather extensively in this wonderful little book of Marcus Herzig. Guess I can use his real name now. Instead of 'Kamichan' (the Japanese speaker in me has enough issues to go with that name as it is, so I'm happy I can just use his actual name now).
Basically I went
But hey, you know. To go with his theme:
Tits or GTFO.
No really. I'm into stuff like this too
I enjoy more than enough things that don't come with tits. Welcome them in my life actually. In my fandom even. I know, unbelievable, right?
So apparently he describes me as having a sense of humour that bordered on inappropriateness and bad taste
I'll admit I was rather cynical as an adolescent. Being depressed out of your mind does that to a person. But hey, look at me, I grew up, no longer want to kill myself, no longer want the world to die along with me. It's called maturing, you should try it sometimes.
Also I apparently completely lacked any kind of self-composure and sensibility
So basically my little 19-year-old self was pretty much a sociopath. Okay. Good to know. Maybe I should have mentioned that to my therapist at the time.
All the chapters that I bothered to read (I searched for my name, so skipped most of it) pretty much stank of misogyny and male privilege.
He keeps claiming he was probably more nervous to meet me than I was to meet him.
No. You (as a fully mature able cis man) are never more scared than a young woman (a girl, I was 19) meeting a complete stranger.
He writes about his lack of people skills and his inability to empathise with others.
Yet he keeps crawling back into his age old role of being the victim. These crazy women that expect people to be honest about who the hell they are online. To make younger people feel safe. Oh the insanity.
Then he starts mocking our concerns about being concerned for the younger people in the fandom. Admittedly we were quite a core bunch of older fans (I'm on average 2 years older than Ya3 was), we also knew a lot of fans that were younger than the idols we liked and we treated them as our younger sisters. Feeling protective was a rather natural consequence of that relationship. We didn't want them to think everyone they ever thought was a young woman (much less frightening, more 'normal') might actually be a man their fathers' age.
While I agree men suffer quite a bit from patriarchy as well (always being the big bad), that doesn't take away the fact that men need to be aware from the privilege this brings them too. Like I said: meeting up with strangers will never be as scary for adult men as it is for teenage girls. Part of being conscious about your position in society is to acknowledge this and to try and change the way you are seen, I guess.
Nowhere do I feel that saying things like "fuck the children, pun intended" are VERY mature ways to react to anyone calling you out on your bullshit.
Basically my reaction when I read that sentence.
and
then
and as quite the understatement
This is just such a classic response on his part. Basically what he did was complain about being labeled a certain way. He didn't want to be seen as the big scary pedophile in Johnny's fandom. He didn't want people to be scared of him. To just give him a chance... then he jokes about fucking children rape. Then people freak out even more and he starts complaining about always being the poor little victim.
The problem with this man is that he basically suffers from the same old classic cognitive issues that most people with inappropriate feelings for children (or at least those much younger than themselves) have. They give children too much credit (ergo sex is okay, they can make their own decisions, we should take them seriously all the time, etc). Well you know what.
Kids think stupid shit all the time. I'm 25 now and I still think and do stupid shit. Because I haven't lived for all that long. I haven't seen all the world has to offer yet and I've yet to experience so many things and learn learn learn. I'll fall on my ass and that'll be another experience that'll make me more mature.
When I was 19 and first had to deal with all this crap, I said and did some things I'm not proud of. I don't actually remember them, but I'm sure as hell I did. Because was a kid.
He also completely fails to see the difference between adults being sexually attracked to 13-year-olds and 13-year-olds being sexually attracted to each other. Again the word 'privilege' comes to mind, but moreso: 'power'.
He doesn't even realise the power he holds as an adult white male in Western-Europe over everyone that reads his blog and idolises him and even today that kind of freaks me out. That young girls all over the world jump to his defence simply after reading his weblog. That people spend money on his book. It makes me sick to read, to be real honest.
...is all I want to tell these kids. Listen to the Doctor, y'all.
Marcus' problem is that he doesn't seem to realise (at least not from what he keeps writing) that there are giant major differences between people his age (male or female) and children. Teenagers. Like I said I'm 25 and I have difficulties really personally connecting to those a couple of years under twenty. This is normal. It's because you're in entirely different stages in your life. If you're headed towards 40 and you find it emotionally and intellectually easier to connect with teenagers than with those your own age, I'd suggest you find a therapist or go see a doctor, mostly for your own sake.
And his analysis of women being into male homosexual porn? Really?
Oh wait, I guess the point is to be just a tad more patronising towards women. Because obviously we all enjoy to read about our favourite idols getting down together, because god forbid they were to have sex with other women! Our brittle little fangirl hearts would simply shatter into a thousant tiny pieces. This trope is so ancient you'd think people would have gotten over it a long time ago already.
LAWL.
Because that's apparently my catchphrase and childish and stupid. Guess I'd rather use 'lawl' sporadically than make inappropriate puns about sex with children rape.
Well you know what
I basically just made this post to go gif crazy. Those that actually know me would actually know this to be true, lol.
To everyone that knows me outside from all of this drama. To everyone that knows who I really am and what I'm really like. To anyone that doesn't really know me that well, but doesn't actually believe I'm a total creeper
Okay, done killing time before the new series of Buzzcocks starts. Right on time.
Basically I went
But hey, you know. To go with his theme:
Tits or GTFO.
No really. I'm into stuff like this too
I enjoy more than enough things that don't come with tits. Welcome them in my life actually. In my fandom even. I know, unbelievable, right?
So apparently he describes me as having a sense of humour that bordered on inappropriateness and bad taste
I'll admit I was rather cynical as an adolescent. Being depressed out of your mind does that to a person. But hey, look at me, I grew up, no longer want to kill myself, no longer want the world to die along with me. It's called maturing, you should try it sometimes.
Also I apparently completely lacked any kind of self-composure and sensibility
So basically my little 19-year-old self was pretty much a sociopath. Okay. Good to know. Maybe I should have mentioned that to my therapist at the time.
All the chapters that I bothered to read (I searched for my name, so skipped most of it) pretty much stank of misogyny and male privilege.
He keeps claiming he was probably more nervous to meet me than I was to meet him.
No. You (as a fully mature able cis man) are never more scared than a young woman (a girl, I was 19) meeting a complete stranger.
He writes about his lack of people skills and his inability to empathise with others.
Yet he keeps crawling back into his age old role of being the victim. These crazy women that expect people to be honest about who the hell they are online. To make younger people feel safe. Oh the insanity.
Then he starts mocking our concerns about being concerned for the younger people in the fandom. Admittedly we were quite a core bunch of older fans (I'm on average 2 years older than Ya3 was), we also knew a lot of fans that were younger than the idols we liked and we treated them as our younger sisters. Feeling protective was a rather natural consequence of that relationship. We didn't want them to think everyone they ever thought was a young woman (much less frightening, more 'normal') might actually be a man their fathers' age.
While I agree men suffer quite a bit from patriarchy as well (always being the big bad), that doesn't take away the fact that men need to be aware from the privilege this brings them too. Like I said: meeting up with strangers will never be as scary for adult men as it is for teenage girls. Part of being conscious about your position in society is to acknowledge this and to try and change the way you are seen, I guess.
Nowhere do I feel that saying things like "fuck the children, pun intended" are VERY mature ways to react to anyone calling you out on your bullshit.
Basically my reaction when I read that sentence.
and
then
and as quite the understatement
This is just such a classic response on his part. Basically what he did was complain about being labeled a certain way. He didn't want to be seen as the big scary pedophile in Johnny's fandom. He didn't want people to be scared of him. To just give him a chance... then he jokes about fucking children rape. Then people freak out even more and he starts complaining about always being the poor little victim.
The problem with this man is that he basically suffers from the same old classic cognitive issues that most people with inappropriate feelings for children (or at least those much younger than themselves) have. They give children too much credit (ergo sex is okay, they can make their own decisions, we should take them seriously all the time, etc). Well you know what.
Kids think stupid shit all the time. I'm 25 now and I still think and do stupid shit. Because I haven't lived for all that long. I haven't seen all the world has to offer yet and I've yet to experience so many things and learn learn learn. I'll fall on my ass and that'll be another experience that'll make me more mature.
When I was 19 and first had to deal with all this crap, I said and did some things I'm not proud of. I don't actually remember them, but I'm sure as hell I did. Because was a kid.
He also completely fails to see the difference between adults being sexually attracked to 13-year-olds and 13-year-olds being sexually attracted to each other. Again the word 'privilege' comes to mind, but moreso: 'power'.
He doesn't even realise the power he holds as an adult white male in Western-Europe over everyone that reads his blog and idolises him and even today that kind of freaks me out. That young girls all over the world jump to his defence simply after reading his weblog. That people spend money on his book. It makes me sick to read, to be real honest.
...is all I want to tell these kids. Listen to the Doctor, y'all.
Marcus' problem is that he doesn't seem to realise (at least not from what he keeps writing) that there are giant major differences between people his age (male or female) and children. Teenagers. Like I said I'm 25 and I have difficulties really personally connecting to those a couple of years under twenty. This is normal. It's because you're in entirely different stages in your life. If you're headed towards 40 and you find it emotionally and intellectually easier to connect with teenagers than with those your own age, I'd suggest you find a therapist or go see a doctor, mostly for your own sake.
And his analysis of women being into male homosexual porn? Really?
Oh wait, I guess the point is to be just a tad more patronising towards women. Because obviously we all enjoy to read about our favourite idols getting down together, because god forbid they were to have sex with other women! Our brittle little fangirl hearts would simply shatter into a thousant tiny pieces. This trope is so ancient you'd think people would have gotten over it a long time ago already.
LAWL.
Because that's apparently my catchphrase and childish and stupid. Guess I'd rather use 'lawl' sporadically than make inappropriate puns about sex with children rape.
Well you know what
I basically just made this post to go gif crazy. Those that actually know me would actually know this to be true, lol.
To everyone that knows me outside from all of this drama. To everyone that knows who I really am and what I'm really like. To anyone that doesn't really know me that well, but doesn't actually believe I'm a total creeper
Okay, done killing time before the new series of Buzzcocks starts. Right on time.