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[ilikemyhumordry]

I just posted on the 27th of November (2012), but I wanted to ask something of you people who are a bit better with body language out there. I promise this will be short. How do you signal that you're done hugging? I don't have problems most of the time, but sometimes I just feel like "gah, don't touch me,". I've tried pulling away slightly, but

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[old_cutter_john]

No idea about the hugging thing: It's never been a problem to me, so I never tried to solve it.

Post as often as you have material that warrants a post. I've been helping to moderate this community for over six years now, and during all that time, there have been only two or three people who overdid it, and only for brief periods. It's clear, based on experience, that twice in one day isn't inherently excessive, nor is four times in three days - though the subject matter can make it excessive. If you start out from a position of worry about overdoing it, which seems to be the case, it's very unlikely that you actually will overdo it. Just do what feels comfortable for you, and it'll almost certainly be comfortable for the rest of us.

Edited to add: Oh yeah!... Welcome to the community!

[ilikemyhumordry]

Sounds good! I like to understand the rules as soon as I can. :)

Thank you for the welcome! :D

[pklemica]

I'd add to this that, with regards to content: the times to me that it has felt like someone is overdoing it is when they begin to treat the community like it's their personal journal - when I'm seeing several posts a week (or more) from the same person, all with more of a "this is what happened to me today" slant without much in the way of generalizing it to the comm. An occasional post of that sort is fine - I mean, we are not the greatest at always remembering how to get out of our own heads and relate to others. But after a fair number in pretty quick succession I start to feel like, "If I wanted to read this much about your world I'd have friended you," which is maybe not the most charitable thought... but I just think it, I don't actually say it to them! Iirc, those who do overuse the comm like that generally seem to outgrow that pretty quickly anyway - I think people get really excited to have finally found a set of people like them, and overdo it to start, but seem to settle in to some sort of more reasonable rhythm once

[ilikemyhumordry]

Hmm, alright. That makes sense. Thank you for the guidelines. :) With this perspective I don't think I'll have a problem with my behavior. Thank you for replying to me.

[inever]

"The other of the two made a big point each time of the fact that they did not have AS, they'd had this other life event which caused them to act in certain ways they'd decided were like AS, and seemed insistent on exploring this connection amid many taking great offense at the implication that AS is a way in which humans break rather than a way in which humans are. I also had a great deal of trouble relating personally to the things that poster felt were characteristic of AS, so they especially rubbed me the wrong way because it felt like they were misappropriating my label, but I'm not sure if maybe others did relate better to them... "

Oh man, that was a nightmare. I admit to not having had the most mature reactions to that person. I took a lot of it personally when I shouldn't have.