job and social problems
Question:
I graduated from grad school in May. Had trouble landing a job until last month when I was offered a really entry level position. I have trouble showing interest in things and I tend to come off as "cold" and "reserved" during interviews I am afraid.
Well, I landed a job and was happy about that. Except I was miserable. Every single day was horrid. My supervisors got on to me for acting bored, when I wasn't. She wouldn't believe me when I said otherwise. She said I didn't ask enough questions, which I did ask questions when I needed to.
The whole working environment made me so nervous. I could never figure out how to do office protocol just right and kept screwing up. MY nerves made me make stupid mistakes. They thought I was an idiot.
And then I got fired. Well, they eliminated my job because "it wasn't working out". I worked there less than a month.
It really made me realize I am not cut out or comfortable for the corporate world. My husband pushes me to find a similar job, but I was so unhappy every single day. I fear I will just get fired at whatever job I get and it scares me.
I need to find something I can do that works with my Aspergers. I am curious what everyone else has done that works for them? It might not work for me, but it interests me nonetheless (and it might help me).
If I had my dream job, it would be working with animals in some way. I started out as a biology major and wanted to work with wild animals one day. I somehow switched myself all around, thinking I needed to be more "practical" and now I have a B.S. in Business and Finance and a Masters in Real Estate Development. Yet, any of the jobs I can get with those degrees sound miserable to me :( And my student loan payments make it whereI have to have a "real" job otherwise I would just apply at Petsmart to be a dog trainer. I work much better with animals than I do people. I connect with them better than others and I simply adore them.
Otherwise, I really like writing, but not sure if I am good at it (I am in a writing contest and doing pretty decent so far, but I cannot get used to using figurative language or anything that isn't literal).
I applied to be a teacher with Teach For America. I think working with children, especially those in low-income areas (I grew up in poverty myself) will make me happy.
Or if I have to take another job, should I just be open up front and tell them about my Aspergers so they can better understand and accomadate me, or is that a bad idea?
On top of all this, I was invited to someone I don't knows birthday party tomorrow night and I accepted (a girl I know just barely invited me). I am not sure why I thought that would be a good idea. Now I am a nervous wreck and want to make an excuse not to go tomorrow. I am always this way and if I force myself to go, half the time it really isn't so bad. I know I need to get out more and try and make friends, but that is easier said than done. So I have a lot on my mind at the moment.
I graduated from grad school in May. Had trouble landing a job until last month when I was offered a really entry level position. I have trouble showing interest in things and I tend to come off as "cold" and "reserved" during interviews I am afraid.
Well, I landed a job and was happy about that. Except I was miserable. Every single day was horrid. My supervisors got on to me for acting bored, when I wasn't. She wouldn't believe me when I said otherwise. She said I didn't ask enough questions, which I did ask questions when I needed to.
The whole working environment made me so nervous. I could never figure out how to do office protocol just right and kept screwing up. MY nerves made me make stupid mistakes. They thought I was an idiot.
And then I got fired. Well, they eliminated my job because "it wasn't working out". I worked there less than a month.
It really made me realize I am not cut out or comfortable for the corporate world. My husband pushes me to find a similar job, but I was so unhappy every single day. I fear I will just get fired at whatever job I get and it scares me.
I need to find something I can do that works with my Aspergers. I am curious what everyone else has done that works for them? It might not work for me, but it interests me nonetheless (and it might help me).
If I had my dream job, it would be working with animals in some way. I started out as a biology major and wanted to work with wild animals one day. I somehow switched myself all around, thinking I needed to be more "practical" and now I have a B.S. in Business and Finance and a Masters in Real Estate Development. Yet, any of the jobs I can get with those degrees sound miserable to me :( And my student loan payments make it whereI have to have a "real" job otherwise I would just apply at Petsmart to be a dog trainer. I work much better with animals than I do people. I connect with them better than others and I simply adore them.
Otherwise, I really like writing, but not sure if I am good at it (I am in a writing contest and doing pretty decent so far, but I cannot get used to using figurative language or anything that isn't literal).
I applied to be a teacher with Teach For America. I think working with children, especially those in low-income areas (I grew up in poverty myself) will make me happy.
Or if I have to take another job, should I just be open up front and tell them about my Aspergers so they can better understand and accomadate me, or is that a bad idea?
On top of all this, I was invited to someone I don't knows birthday party tomorrow night and I accepted (a girl I know just barely invited me). I am not sure why I thought that would be a good idea. Now I am a nervous wreck and want to make an excuse not to go tomorrow. I am always this way and if I force myself to go, half the time it really isn't so bad. I know I need to get out more and try and make friends, but that is easier said than done. So I have a lot on my mind at the moment.