Advice for Long Distance Relationships

[riverunner]

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Bizarre afterthought

[old_cutter_john]

You know, it occurs to me, that if you were a virgin, he might have been a virgin too, even if he chose not to let on. If that's the case, you might do well to just let him believe that your vagina is about what he can expect. The worst-case scenario is that there really is something about your vagina that would be problem to a man with some experience, but he has none, and would have accepted you as you are. You ask your question, and he tells you he didn't notice anything unusual, and then he sets about getting a practical education elsewhere. You're better off not asking. All you need to know about any man is whether he likes you as you are (assuming, of course, that you like him). There's nothing you gain by knowing whether any particular man finds your vagina objectionable. It doesn't tell you what to do next. Don't worry abut a possible physical defect until someone remarks upon it.

Edited to add this even-more-bizarre afterthought: I can imagine that some readers might wonder at my bothering to consider the possibility that the guy was a virgin. There are two reasons. One is that the worst-case scenario is considerably worse than the best-case scenario is good, and that means that it should be given more weight relative to its probability. The other is that the guy was trying to make out while watching a movie.

Re: Bizarre afterthought

[kisekileia]

I've had the making out while watching a movie situation with a guy who wasn't a virgin, though I was. The movie got forgotten and then the last half re-watched :D.