Drunk NTs
I was interested to see someone recently posting that they thought they became more NT-like after a few drinks.
I don't know if this happens with me, but I certainly have noticed that a lot of NTs get more NTish when they are drunk - often to a degree that I find quite hard to cope with.
I mean things like talking and laughing very loudly, not listening, repeating themselves, talking about nothing, taking ages to get to the point.
I have something of a problem at the moment, as I have cut right back on my own alcohol consumption in order to stabilize my blood sugar, but my partner is still a heavy drinker, and gets drunk quite regularly. He never gets nasty when he's drunk, but I do find it a bit trying due to the above-mentioned effects. (When I was drinking regularly myself, I didn't notice it so much!)
For instance, last night he got home from the pub and cooked me a meal - which was very nice and much appreciated, but all the time we were eating it he kept repeating himself - about how he had put chives and mustard in the mash and thought that had worked well, and how he hadn't put salt in because he preferred it without... And he just kept going over and over these same points until I wanted to scream. In the end I did say: "I think we've exhausted that topic, haven't we?" - which might sound a bit cold and unpleasant of me, but I just couldn't stand it anymore.
I don't go to the pub with him often now, and when I do it's only at the start of one of his sessions - but I still have to deal with how he is when he gets home.
I think part of the reason I find it difficult is that it makes me sad to see him regularly making himself so much less intelligent and interesting than he actually is. It seems a waste.
But of course, I know it's his choice - and if I don't like it I can end the relationship. (Which I don't want to do.) I don't think I can change him, even if it would be right to try. He just likes drinking.
Wondered if anyone else related to this stuff.
I don't know if this happens with me, but I certainly have noticed that a lot of NTs get more NTish when they are drunk - often to a degree that I find quite hard to cope with.
I mean things like talking and laughing very loudly, not listening, repeating themselves, talking about nothing, taking ages to get to the point.
I have something of a problem at the moment, as I have cut right back on my own alcohol consumption in order to stabilize my blood sugar, but my partner is still a heavy drinker, and gets drunk quite regularly. He never gets nasty when he's drunk, but I do find it a bit trying due to the above-mentioned effects. (When I was drinking regularly myself, I didn't notice it so much!)
For instance, last night he got home from the pub and cooked me a meal - which was very nice and much appreciated, but all the time we were eating it he kept repeating himself - about how he had put chives and mustard in the mash and thought that had worked well, and how he hadn't put salt in because he preferred it without... And he just kept going over and over these same points until I wanted to scream. In the end I did say: "I think we've exhausted that topic, haven't we?" - which might sound a bit cold and unpleasant of me, but I just couldn't stand it anymore.
I don't go to the pub with him often now, and when I do it's only at the start of one of his sessions - but I still have to deal with how he is when he gets home.
I think part of the reason I find it difficult is that it makes me sad to see him regularly making himself so much less intelligent and interesting than he actually is. It seems a waste.
But of course, I know it's his choice - and if I don't like it I can end the relationship. (Which I don't want to do.) I don't think I can change him, even if it would be right to try. He just likes drinking.
Wondered if anyone else related to this stuff.