High-drama friends
I'm 25 years old and have a 21-year-old friend, who is a perfectly sweet, pretty girl, with a diverse set of interests and an active social life. She's also single, as in, she's never even had a boyfriend. She's also the sort of girl who posts self-portraits of herself on facebook all the time.
I've known her for about a year now; in that time, she's rejected two different guys. One was a former coworker of ours who is a total [your choice of rude word], the other was a perfectly attractive, very nice guy who had been chasing after her for two years. I recently introduced her to a coworker of mine at my new job. He's not the sharpest tool in the drawer, and his incredible energy wears me out, but again, he's a perfectly nice guy, they had a lot in common, seemed to want the same things in a relationship, and they clicked right away. And then she rejected him because he was too into her.
Then she posts facebook statuses like this one all the time:
"When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible."
"If a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a shit, then he genuinely doesn't give a shit."
Yeah, I believe both. When a guy shows real interest you can tell he's honestly interested or he honestly cares. When he doesn't even seem to try, then he doesn't give a shit about you, or he's over you. The first situation I miss, the second I'm sick of experiencing.
AMA, at this point I am so tired of giving a shit. I want to give her a big dose of Reality and say that at this point she's just being a whiny bitch, that she doesn't have trouble meeting guys and that all her problems are being caused by her own self. I understand not wanting to date someone -- but whining about being single when you pretty much hop, skip, and jump over potential suitors all the time is something else entirely. Maybe right now I'm too annoyed, but I can't think of any polite way to bring this up. Any suggestions? Or should I just continue ignoring it?
I've known her for about a year now; in that time, she's rejected two different guys. One was a former coworker of ours who is a total [your choice of rude word], the other was a perfectly attractive, very nice guy who had been chasing after her for two years. I recently introduced her to a coworker of mine at my new job. He's not the sharpest tool in the drawer, and his incredible energy wears me out, but again, he's a perfectly nice guy, they had a lot in common, seemed to want the same things in a relationship, and they clicked right away. And then she rejected him because he was too into her.
Then she posts facebook statuses like this one all the time:
"When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible."
"If a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a shit, then he genuinely doesn't give a shit."
Yeah, I believe both. When a guy shows real interest you can tell he's honestly interested or he honestly cares. When he doesn't even seem to try, then he doesn't give a shit about you, or he's over you. The first situation I miss, the second I'm sick of experiencing.
AMA, at this point I am so tired of giving a shit. I want to give her a big dose of Reality and say that at this point she's just being a whiny bitch, that she doesn't have trouble meeting guys and that all her problems are being caused by her own self. I understand not wanting to date someone -- but whining about being single when you pretty much hop, skip, and jump over potential suitors all the time is something else entirely. Maybe right now I'm too annoyed, but I can't think of any polite way to bring this up. Any suggestions? Or should I just continue ignoring it?