The Cold, Hard Truth about Kpop Fans.
Life.
It's there.
Whether you like it or not.
And lately, I do very much like it.
Things have been going great.
I feel like I have no need for fandom of any kind. And any drama that that entails.
Reading, writing, participating, watching, all of that is useless to me now. I love kpop still, but it's not a big part of my life anymore.
And I love that.
I find such joy and happiness in just being with my significant other.
I don't feel like I've turned my back on the Korean pop culture, only learned to slowly distance myself from it. Because it is not necessary for life, for my life.
A lot of those that love kpop as much as i did, had just as much in common with the next person. Now, not all fans are like that, but the majority that I know of have a certain aspect of their life which droe them to 'love' kpop to such an extreme.
And the same goes for Jpop, if not more.
The fans...are lonely. They crave some type of affection. Something significant in their life to make them want to move on in life. To want to give their time and energy to another aspect of their life.
The thing with that though, is that those fans who are...lonely, they have nothing in their life to make them want to change.
I know that's cruel. And mean. But it's true.
I was like that. I barely had any friends, I didn't have a boyfriend, I had different likes then the rest of my family.
And when Kpop came into my life, with smoking hot Asian boys shaking their hot asses and dancing hot naked, I thought it was kind of a reprieve. A way to ignore the suckiness of my current life and indulge myself into a new one.
And it wasn't until I met my current boyfriend about a year ago, that I realized how far gone I was. How dependent on kpop and jpop and their alike idols that I was. Now, don't get me wrong, I have met some amazing people through this fandom, and others, but I never felt fulfilled as I do when I fall asleep in my boyfriend's arms.
And gradually, since I'e met my love, I let go. Without knowing, I distanced myself from it and I couldn't be happier. I love the music still, I am still excited when SHINee comes out with new music. but it doesn't have as big of an impact on my life.
i don't need to count every day until they release their next album, granted I will be excited, but when it gets released, it gets released. I have other things in my life to think about.
Such as, when should I start dinner for when my boyfriend gets home, is there enough money on the electricity card for me to turn the oven on without worrying if I sped too much money, or if I took my birth control yesterday. Or if I need to arrange a way to go shopping because we're low on food.
Those are the things that take up my time. And i don't mind.
Because it's life.
But with hardcore fans who don't have a life, they worry about if they have enough money to buy the next album while going to the concert next month. Whether they received enough comments on their last smut-filled story that they posted about their bias pairing. Or they panic because they just realized their bias cut his hair and did something very human, which is something idols are meant to do.
There are so many more things I can say about all this. But that would take pages upon pages to complete.
But I believe that I have said what I wanted to, for now at least.
Life.
It's there.
Whether you like it or not.
And lately, I do very much like it.
Things have been going great.
I feel like I have no need for fandom of any kind. And any drama that that entails.
Reading, writing, participating, watching, all of that is useless to me now. I love kpop still, but it's not a big part of my life anymore.
And I love that.
I find such joy and happiness in just being with my significant other.
I don't feel like I've turned my back on the Korean pop culture, only learned to slowly distance myself from it. Because it is not necessary for life, for my life.
A lot of those that love kpop as much as i did, had just as much in common with the next person. Now, not all fans are like that, but the majority that I know of have a certain aspect of their life which droe them to 'love' kpop to such an extreme.
And the same goes for Jpop, if not more.
The fans...are lonely. They crave some type of affection. Something significant in their life to make them want to move on in life. To want to give their time and energy to another aspect of their life.
The thing with that though, is that those fans who are...lonely, they have nothing in their life to make them want to change.
I know that's cruel. And mean. But it's true.
I was like that. I barely had any friends, I didn't have a boyfriend, I had different likes then the rest of my family.
And when Kpop came into my life, with smoking hot Asian boys shaking their hot asses and dancing hot naked, I thought it was kind of a reprieve. A way to ignore the suckiness of my current life and indulge myself into a new one.
And it wasn't until I met my current boyfriend about a year ago, that I realized how far gone I was. How dependent on kpop and jpop and their alike idols that I was. Now, don't get me wrong, I have met some amazing people through this fandom, and others, but I never felt fulfilled as I do when I fall asleep in my boyfriend's arms.
And gradually, since I'e met my love, I let go. Without knowing, I distanced myself from it and I couldn't be happier. I love the music still, I am still excited when SHINee comes out with new music. but it doesn't have as big of an impact on my life.
i don't need to count every day until they release their next album, granted I will be excited, but when it gets released, it gets released. I have other things in my life to think about.
Such as, when should I start dinner for when my boyfriend gets home, is there enough money on the electricity card for me to turn the oven on without worrying if I sped too much money, or if I took my birth control yesterday. Or if I need to arrange a way to go shopping because we're low on food.
Those are the things that take up my time. And i don't mind.
Because it's life.
But with hardcore fans who don't have a life, they worry about if they have enough money to buy the next album while going to the concert next month. Whether they received enough comments on their last smut-filled story that they posted about their bias pairing. Or they panic because they just realized their bias cut his hair and did something very human, which is something idols are meant to do.
There are so many more things I can say about all this. But that would take pages upon pages to complete.
But I believe that I have said what I wanted to, for now at least.
Life.