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Marriage problems:
I am in this sticky situation that I don't know how to get myself out of.
Mike is a crazy talented and hardworking man. Insanely talented and insanely hardworking. I wish I could get it through to you, all of you in the interwebs, how much of these two things he is.
Anyway, we are in the process of figuring out our LIVES since I will be graduating soon. Like careers, where to live, and what not. And I just can't get past this idea that Mike and I really need to move to the LA area so he can get a shot at being a screenwriter. We have had endless conversations about this. Here are the points that are most brought up:
- We both don't really like southern California, especially the LA area. Mostly due to the lack of nature. I guess moving to a beach town could fix that but THAT'S EXPENSIVE.
- California in general is expensive
- Mike doesn't want to raise children there and apparently, that is a huge priority for him (my husband rules)
- Mike wants to go to graduate school... I don't know if this is a point or not
So. There. I really feel I am more hung up on this idea than he is. He always tells me it's fine if he never does it and it is just a fun hobby of his but I just... I can't get past the horrible idea of Mike never being recognized for his talent, never going to graduate school (and doing his other dream job of being a college cinema professor), being at the Apple store for the rest of his life and just... always thinking what if. He seems to just want to do what is best for his future family and moving there isn't a priority for that. THAT IS SO SWEET AND WONDERFUL AND I LOVE HIM BUT UUUGH.
Before my career and dreams are even brought up, I want to be in education. California is doing pretty bad in that field, but on the other hand, my field is ANYWHERE so I will gladly teach or whatever any children that are available wherever I may be in life.
GUYS WHAT DO I DO????????????
I am in this sticky situation that I don't know how to get myself out of.
Mike is a crazy talented and hardworking man. Insanely talented and insanely hardworking. I wish I could get it through to you, all of you in the interwebs, how much of these two things he is.
Anyway, we are in the process of figuring out our LIVES since I will be graduating soon. Like careers, where to live, and what not. And I just can't get past this idea that Mike and I really need to move to the LA area so he can get a shot at being a screenwriter. We have had endless conversations about this. Here are the points that are most brought up:
- We both don't really like southern California, especially the LA area. Mostly due to the lack of nature. I guess moving to a beach town could fix that but THAT'S EXPENSIVE.
- California in general is expensive
- Mike doesn't want to raise children there and apparently, that is a huge priority for him (my husband rules)
- Mike wants to go to graduate school... I don't know if this is a point or not
So. There. I really feel I am more hung up on this idea than he is. He always tells me it's fine if he never does it and it is just a fun hobby of his but I just... I can't get past the horrible idea of Mike never being recognized for his talent, never going to graduate school (and doing his other dream job of being a college cinema professor), being at the Apple store for the rest of his life and just... always thinking what if. He seems to just want to do what is best for his future family and moving there isn't a priority for that. THAT IS SO SWEET AND WONDERFUL AND I LOVE HIM BUT UUUGH.
Before my career and dreams are even brought up, I want to be in education. California is doing pretty bad in that field, but on the other hand, my field is ANYWHERE so I will gladly teach or whatever any children that are available wherever I may be in life.
GUYS WHAT DO I DO????????????