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Many of you know my dad as a friend, a brother, a son and even a husband, but only three of us were blessed with knowing him as a father. It doesnt matter what we knew him as though because we all remember him as one thing, and that is a teacher. He taught me everything i know. He taught me how to live life, how to love it and most importantly how to never forget it. I could ask him any question in the entire world and he would always have an answer. He taught me so much more by not teaching me at all and he never gave me what he knew i could find on my own.
My dad and I had our troubles growing up just like any ordinary family. Sometimes when you are so much like someone its sort of inevitable for you to not butt heads. We talked a lot, mostly about life. Exchanging e-mails and quotes was a constant. I specifically remember one moment that I keep playing over and over in my head. It was my sophmore year in high school and I was sitting by my bed side crying over a boy. My dad told me at least once a week to tell my boyfriends to watch out for 'dad', sometimes he would even tell me that he felt sorry for the guy that were making their way into my life, but when he came in my room that day, he didn't say that this time. Infact, he didn't even say anything, he just hugged me for a few moments that felt like a lifetime and It was somehow the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me.
I love him more than anything i will ever be able to physically or emotionally express. When you love someone that much you just sort of start to realize that there really isn't anything else in the world you could possibly hope for. I've worked so hard to control all the impulses that he let slide. He showed me how to relax, how to get up on this stage and cry to hundreds of people, and he showed me how to avoid becoming anything other than myself. He taught me how to fly.
The hardest thing any of us will ever have to do is let someone we love go. But we have all done it. Ive had a really hard time ever since I found out my dad was sick. I have felt every kind of feeling the human body could possibly feel, including nothing. Sometimes I even felt all those feelings at the same time. Most of the time I just feel like im dreaming. The world is slowly turning upside down, but the last 30 minutes with my dad were spent praying that god would send me a miracle, but if i learned anything within the past 72 hours, it's that he already had. My dad.
I was talking to my cousin lisa the other day and she said " You know they say everything happens for a reason, but sometimes I just don't understand what the reason is" and I thought to myself for a second and realized that although shes right, there is no reason why we should be afraid of change. Change isnt good or bad it just 'is'. "and i know it hurts, but thats life. If nothing else, its life. It's real and sometimes it hurts, but its sort of all we have."
My dad was all about making everyone else happy so I want to leave you with one of the smartest things he has ever writen me...
Sarah- Everything will be alright. Its a test in time we all go thru and I have been tested by the best . You will come out on top and you need to focus on your dreams because sometimes thats all we have . You have lots of love for you at home and will always have it where ever you go . If life gives you lemon's , then make lemonade and learn from it . What is it you really want ? You say to be happy , well -"BE HAPPY" ! To be loved , "THEN LOVE" .Trust in GOD and follow his teachings and you will not go wrong . When you need a shoulder to lean on or an ear to talk to , you need to call me any time . I am not that mean , nor am I insensitive to your feelings . Do you think that you are the only one that finds life difficult and hard to understand .? Well - everyone finds life to be weird and not going the way they have invisioned , but we learn and adjust and move ahead and take what knowledge we have to the next level . Life was never meant to be easy , because if it was , everyone of us would be a carbon copy of each other and there would not be any creativity , but just sheep following the next one ahead in a line doing the same thing day after day . You are doing a great job , just by doing what you are doing . A lot of people never have a chance to chase there dreams, They start out in life at the bottom and never climb out .You are already on the ladder and nearing the top rung.
You are a "GEM" and are precious to me. You can come home any time you fill if it becomes to hard to live there. Just hang in there and / or come home. LOVE you TONS!!!! DAD ( CALL ME )
So in the words of my brand imaging teacher, "Love the people in your life, eat lots of food, treat yourself to something new and then do the same thing for someone who can't afford it."