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I can never decide how I feel about BDSM entering into mainstream society. On the one hand I can wear my keys in public or made quiet comments without people deciding I'm tragically, horrifically flawed... Or if I admit my bruises came from a lover, all I've got to do is wink and they start to grin instead of rushing to phone the police. This is good. But on the other hand... No one will stop talking about it. And most of them have it all wrong. I can't flip through a damn book without a poorly written quasi bondage or sadistic sex scene jumping out of the pages. I dig that people are fascinated I just.. wish they'd shut the hell up. If you're curious, get thee to a dungeon. Stop making badly informed jokes! >_<
Case in point:
I'm at work, grabbing drinks and one of the guys is messing with one of the girls. Irritated, she scrunches up her fists and stomps a foot, yelling, "If you don't stop it, I'm going to -hit- you!!" And he sneers at her and goes "But I like that!" Unfortunately for the boy in question? I've had a bad day.
"Honey, -honey-," drawled I, letting the little girl leak out of my voice and replacing it with the huskier tone I generally use when answering the phone or speaking French. "Everyone knows if your pain-loving submissive is misbehaving, you don't hit 'im for it. You put him in the corner with all his toys on and ignore him until he begs for his beating like a -good- little pet."*
Both the girl and the guy got real, real quiet and stared at me for a couple moments, eyes a little wider than they were before.
"Daaaamn." Said the girl. "I think you just got -topped-."
I tipped them both a wink and went back to my chores.
*(This is true. It's not the kind of dynamic I prefer. I expect my lovers, whether they're dominant to me or submissive, to be able to tell me what they want or need like an adult. I'm your lover, not your nanny.)
Case in point:
I'm at work, grabbing drinks and one of the guys is messing with one of the girls. Irritated, she scrunches up her fists and stomps a foot, yelling, "If you don't stop it, I'm going to -hit- you!!" And he sneers at her and goes "But I like that!" Unfortunately for the boy in question? I've had a bad day.
"Honey, -honey-," drawled I, letting the little girl leak out of my voice and replacing it with the huskier tone I generally use when answering the phone or speaking French. "Everyone knows if your pain-loving submissive is misbehaving, you don't hit 'im for it. You put him in the corner with all his toys on and ignore him until he begs for his beating like a -good- little pet."*
Both the girl and the guy got real, real quiet and stared at me for a couple moments, eyes a little wider than they were before.
"Daaaamn." Said the girl. "I think you just got -topped-."
I tipped them both a wink and went back to my chores.
*(This is true. It's not the kind of dynamic I prefer. I expect my lovers, whether they're dominant to me or submissive, to be able to tell me what they want or need like an adult. I'm your lover, not your nanny.)