You can't just go around re-arranging peoples brains!
So, this question was on somebody's MySpace profile and I thought I'd go off and answer it somehow. t really turned into a whole lot more than I thought. It feels like I've been researching this subject for years and years, and this goes way farther into other aspects of life than I thought when i was typing this. This research does involve most of my lifes experiences and definately the meaningful things that those I love have said to me.
So here's what he put down:
"IF YOU CAN ANSWER THIS QUESTION I WILL PUT YOU AS MY NUMBER ONE FOREVER. OK HERE'S THE QUESTION.
WHY DOES LOVE HURT SO MUCH, KILL SO MANY AND BREAK EVERY HEART IN THE WORLD YET EVERYONE WANTS IT SO BAD?"
I was once asked :"What's the worst feeling?" I responded with: "Having what I want/need most witheld after experiencing it." When asked: "Well, what is the best feeling then?" I just had to respond with something that ties in to my first answer: "Being given back exactly what was witheld." The best feeling isn't simply getting what I want or need, it's getting it after I was denied it, and felt that terrible feeling of being without it. The worst feeling can't come from being denied something I've never had either, since I don't know how powerful it can be, or how much it can affect me.
That sounds like the makings of an addiction right? It also draws attention to the fact that all the good things could never be as good without the bad for contrast.
Love is a very powerful, passionate feeling/experience. It can mean everything. As long as it's presence or loss is felt, it can never amount to simply nothing. If love is there, you can't just ignore it unless you no longer feel it. It has to disipate over time of not being felt, or one knowing it shall never return.
It can be like an addiction, and's it seems to be the purest form of the pain/pleasure cycle. The most intense pain can come from the experience and then loss of love. If it is known that it can or will return, it brings a heightened state of anticipation and definately a lot of pain, but still hope. It's hard to feel hope. And why feel it if the object of the greatest feeling or addiction is never taken from you?
That's why pain is part of this world, to know what pleasure and happiness truly is, to really feel it's worth. Love has the very best, most intense experiences and feelings to offer when it comes to things of this nature.
As far as these things go, it's like heroin. The perfect drug, the biggest addiction. Only with this one, it's not all just in your head, and you're not the only one feeling the good effects while everyone around suffers. Yeah, it can bring destruction of all sorts, horrible, awful, since many will go out of their way for this addiction. However, it can change the lives of all those around in a split second.
here's so much potential for either end of the spectrum, and it is a gamble. I really don't know how the odds are, and I doubt you can quantify it anyways. It's that unpredictable thing.
You know how it's not as much fun to bring ones self to orgasm? It's predicatble, and sometimes it's so quick and boring 'cause you've got the odds cornered, there's no surprises, you've got a habit of getting it done. Ever notice that when another poerson is involved, it's random, and you keep hopeing for that right spot to be touched, and it takes so much longer sometimes? but in the end it's so much more satisfying. Love is like that, in a way. You can't count on any factor, and you can never level the playing field. things on that level can be so much more appealing.
So yeah, you've got to anti up, play the game. If you never take the risk at something, you will never have a chance at getting it. All the time spent holding back so much out of fear of pain and suffering... Well, you do that and you won't ever know what either end feels like. We all have emotions and reactions.
We should not deny any of them. Why reject parts of ourselves? Why try to keep yourself away from a potentially wonderful thing? Everything worth having requires an equal sacrifice.
So here's what he put down:
"IF YOU CAN ANSWER THIS QUESTION I WILL PUT YOU AS MY NUMBER ONE FOREVER. OK HERE'S THE QUESTION.
WHY DOES LOVE HURT SO MUCH, KILL SO MANY AND BREAK EVERY HEART IN THE WORLD YET EVERYONE WANTS IT SO BAD?"
I was once asked :"What's the worst feeling?" I responded with: "Having what I want/need most witheld after experiencing it." When asked: "Well, what is the best feeling then?" I just had to respond with something that ties in to my first answer: "Being given back exactly what was witheld." The best feeling isn't simply getting what I want or need, it's getting it after I was denied it, and felt that terrible feeling of being without it. The worst feeling can't come from being denied something I've never had either, since I don't know how powerful it can be, or how much it can affect me.
That sounds like the makings of an addiction right? It also draws attention to the fact that all the good things could never be as good without the bad for contrast.
Love is a very powerful, passionate feeling/experience. It can mean everything. As long as it's presence or loss is felt, it can never amount to simply nothing. If love is there, you can't just ignore it unless you no longer feel it. It has to disipate over time of not being felt, or one knowing it shall never return.
It can be like an addiction, and's it seems to be the purest form of the pain/pleasure cycle. The most intense pain can come from the experience and then loss of love. If it is known that it can or will return, it brings a heightened state of anticipation and definately a lot of pain, but still hope. It's hard to feel hope. And why feel it if the object of the greatest feeling or addiction is never taken from you?
That's why pain is part of this world, to know what pleasure and happiness truly is, to really feel it's worth. Love has the very best, most intense experiences and feelings to offer when it comes to things of this nature.
As far as these things go, it's like heroin. The perfect drug, the biggest addiction. Only with this one, it's not all just in your head, and you're not the only one feeling the good effects while everyone around suffers. Yeah, it can bring destruction of all sorts, horrible, awful, since many will go out of their way for this addiction. However, it can change the lives of all those around in a split second.
here's so much potential for either end of the spectrum, and it is a gamble. I really don't know how the odds are, and I doubt you can quantify it anyways. It's that unpredictable thing.
You know how it's not as much fun to bring ones self to orgasm? It's predicatble, and sometimes it's so quick and boring 'cause you've got the odds cornered, there's no surprises, you've got a habit of getting it done. Ever notice that when another poerson is involved, it's random, and you keep hopeing for that right spot to be touched, and it takes so much longer sometimes? but in the end it's so much more satisfying. Love is like that, in a way. You can't count on any factor, and you can never level the playing field. things on that level can be so much more appealing.
So yeah, you've got to anti up, play the game. If you never take the risk at something, you will never have a chance at getting it. All the time spent holding back so much out of fear of pain and suffering... Well, you do that and you won't ever know what either end feels like. We all have emotions and reactions.
We should not deny any of them. Why reject parts of ourselves? Why try to keep yourself away from a potentially wonderful thing? Everything worth having requires an equal sacrifice.