Really thinking.
What is a good person? And quite frankly what is a bad person?
There are so many grays when it comes to those two questions. A good person can be as follows: Kind, caring, thoughtful, watching out for others, understanding, loving, helps others, etc.
And a bad person can be this:hurts people,selfish,rude,abusive,etc.
We as people are not inclined to perfection. No we are far from it, in fact when we try to be perfect, we become even more of a mess than we were in the first place.
People I know around me make mistakes, hurt people, are rude, inconsiderate, step over boundaries, and get into uncomfortable situations. And they are people that I love dearly and have a high respect for.
But my question is this:does that make them a bad person, as I have so clearly said up there that a bad person does these things. And I have also said that people are not inclined to perfection.
So what makes a good person good and a bad person bad, when they both are capable of the same things?
A terrorist could be a good person (coming from the view point of the extremists who believe in Allah-not EVERYONE of the muslim faith thinks this way). From that person's stand point they are standing up for what they believe in by getting rid of people who cause a threat, and by protecting their loved ones. If you leave the other facts out that they have no problem about blowing other people up in the process, then you could look at that view point and see that they have a valid point of wanting to get rid of something that they deem atrocious in their world. And another one is as we Americans go into Iraq to help them fix their country, we are also at fault with these things. We blow these people up too. We cause pain in peoples families buy their loved ones being an innocent by stander. There are two sides who are fighting for their sides to be the right one. And quite frankly (and quite lamely as I state it) there are a lot of grays in the situation. And yes I am for liberating the people over there, and no I don't agree with Bush's reasons for being over there. Anyways that is besides the point.
This probably is a really weak statement of sorts but I've just had a lot of these things on my mind lately about how I think about people and how I put them into categories, and I just wonder:am I right? Am I right to just put that person into the "you're good" box and "you're bad" box? I mean when a person treats me like crap, does that make them a bad person. Because I've clearly had my moments where I shouldn't have said things, and I have also had my moments where I've pushed loved ones (my mother) with things that could hurt her when we used to argue.
I'm beginning to see that the way that I see things-which from my stand point was pretty open minded, needs a lot more stretching then I thought.
For instance, when you are little and someone hurts you, it's easy to write them off as bad, or when you are in middle school or high school. It's just easy to look at what that person has done and just write them off and that's that.
But As I've become an adult and I've seen more things and have observed more issues and life around me, I'm learning that the most important thing in life is to have understanding for every individual and their decisions and view points. And to also really question whether something is "right or wrong".
It's not so easy anymore to look at someone who's hurt me and put them into that category of "you're bad" anymore. Because now I have the blessing and the curse of understanding why they did what they did. And it makes it way more confusing to put them into a category that makes sense to me. It's all above my head right now. It's coming to me I know it, but it is making my head swim.
Another question that I have, is that if a person has treated me wrongly and others see them as a nice person, do I have a right to write them off as a bad person towards me? Because they have a good side to them, they just have somehow lost it when it's come to me. These are the things that I still don't understand yet.
I guess the next step from understanding other peoples perspectives and actions, is speaking up for myself when I feel that a boundary has been crossed. And even then, that is difficult. And the more I type this, the less clarity I have of anything at the moment..
Anright going to bed..lol..latas
There are so many grays when it comes to those two questions. A good person can be as follows: Kind, caring, thoughtful, watching out for others, understanding, loving, helps others, etc.
And a bad person can be this:hurts people,selfish,rude,abusive,etc.
We as people are not inclined to perfection. No we are far from it, in fact when we try to be perfect, we become even more of a mess than we were in the first place.
People I know around me make mistakes, hurt people, are rude, inconsiderate, step over boundaries, and get into uncomfortable situations. And they are people that I love dearly and have a high respect for.
But my question is this:does that make them a bad person, as I have so clearly said up there that a bad person does these things. And I have also said that people are not inclined to perfection.
So what makes a good person good and a bad person bad, when they both are capable of the same things?
A terrorist could be a good person (coming from the view point of the extremists who believe in Allah-not EVERYONE of the muslim faith thinks this way). From that person's stand point they are standing up for what they believe in by getting rid of people who cause a threat, and by protecting their loved ones. If you leave the other facts out that they have no problem about blowing other people up in the process, then you could look at that view point and see that they have a valid point of wanting to get rid of something that they deem atrocious in their world. And another one is as we Americans go into Iraq to help them fix their country, we are also at fault with these things. We blow these people up too. We cause pain in peoples families buy their loved ones being an innocent by stander. There are two sides who are fighting for their sides to be the right one. And quite frankly (and quite lamely as I state it) there are a lot of grays in the situation. And yes I am for liberating the people over there, and no I don't agree with Bush's reasons for being over there. Anyways that is besides the point.
This probably is a really weak statement of sorts but I've just had a lot of these things on my mind lately about how I think about people and how I put them into categories, and I just wonder:am I right? Am I right to just put that person into the "you're good" box and "you're bad" box? I mean when a person treats me like crap, does that make them a bad person. Because I've clearly had my moments where I shouldn't have said things, and I have also had my moments where I've pushed loved ones (my mother) with things that could hurt her when we used to argue.
I'm beginning to see that the way that I see things-which from my stand point was pretty open minded, needs a lot more stretching then I thought.
For instance, when you are little and someone hurts you, it's easy to write them off as bad, or when you are in middle school or high school. It's just easy to look at what that person has done and just write them off and that's that.
But As I've become an adult and I've seen more things and have observed more issues and life around me, I'm learning that the most important thing in life is to have understanding for every individual and their decisions and view points. And to also really question whether something is "right or wrong".
It's not so easy anymore to look at someone who's hurt me and put them into that category of "you're bad" anymore. Because now I have the blessing and the curse of understanding why they did what they did. And it makes it way more confusing to put them into a category that makes sense to me. It's all above my head right now. It's coming to me I know it, but it is making my head swim.
Another question that I have, is that if a person has treated me wrongly and others see them as a nice person, do I have a right to write them off as a bad person towards me? Because they have a good side to them, they just have somehow lost it when it's come to me. These are the things that I still don't understand yet.
I guess the next step from understanding other peoples perspectives and actions, is speaking up for myself when I feel that a boundary has been crossed. And even then, that is difficult. And the more I type this, the less clarity I have of anything at the moment..
Anright going to bed..lol..latas