For me, I often need an external push to even realise my ingrained behaviour needs changing.
Yeah, I think that's part of my embarrassment because I didn't even have the faintest idea.. this comment I got on "5 Times Dean Acted Like a Girl" kind of woke my brain up to the idea that maybe I needed to examine some things.
I didn't mean that you were issuing a blanket statement about slash :) I was just speaking generically - every now and then, someone will issue what they regard as the definitive problem with slash, and I always think there is a 'yeah, but what about....'
Don't worry, I know you didn't! I think it's an important discussion to have and I want to try to see all the facets of it - absolutely there are a ton of reasons why and they differ across writers but it does seem like a phenomenon, doesn't it? So many women writing slash.
Dude, stockholm syndrome is the perfect description for this!!
Dude! I am glad because I didn't really think it through when I wrote Stockholm Syndrome the first time, I only spelled it out later and then understood what I had meant when I wrote it, ya know?
PS In my world Dude is a gender-neutral word. People try to call me Dudette and I'm like, um.. no. No such word.
this comment I got on "5 Times Dean Acted Like a Girl" kind of woke my brain up to the idea that maybe I needed to examine some things.
Heh that makes me think of a whole subset of the 'women writing slash' debate, which comes up regularly - are the male characters even male once they've finished with them? People talk about the way slash writers feminise male characters (not that I'm saying you do this! Of course!) and it always opens up into something really interesting - ie men can cry and be affectionate too and still be masculine, and women can be insulted that other women assume that mincing, bitching and leaning on a man to look after them are particularly female traits.
Re 'dudette' - nasty! That's like 'poetess' and authoress' - rather patronising diminutives for women who try to fill men's roles :)
Wow there's some good thunder and lightening going on here (in London, not LJ!)
Yeah, I think that's part of my embarrassment because I didn't even have the faintest idea.. this comment I got on "5 Times Dean Acted Like a Girl" kind of woke my brain up to the idea that maybe I needed to examine some things.
I didn't mean that you were issuing a blanket statement about slash :) I was just speaking generically - every now and then, someone will issue what they regard as the definitive problem with slash, and I always think there is a 'yeah, but what about....'
Don't worry, I know you didn't! I think it's an important discussion to have and I want to try to see all the facets of it - absolutely there are a ton of reasons why and they differ across writers but it does seem like a phenomenon, doesn't it? So many women writing slash.
Dude, stockholm syndrome is the perfect description for this!!
Dude! I am glad because I didn't really think it through when I wrote Stockholm Syndrome the first time, I only spelled it out later and then understood what I had meant when I wrote it, ya know?
PS In my world Dude is a gender-neutral word. People try to call me Dudette and I'm like, um.. no. No such word.
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Heh that makes me think of a whole subset of the 'women writing slash' debate, which comes up regularly - are the male characters even male once they've finished with them? People talk about the way slash writers feminise male characters (not that I'm saying you do this! Of course!) and it always opens up into something really interesting - ie men can cry and be affectionate too and still be masculine, and women can be insulted that other women assume that mincing, bitching and leaning on a man to look after them are particularly female traits.
Re 'dudette' - nasty! That's like 'poetess' and authoress' - rather patronising diminutives for women who try to fill men's roles :)
Wow there's some good thunder and lightening going on here (in London, not LJ!)
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