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Don't think I mentioned this before but there's this guy that I had a serious crush on for some time. Because ... he's super hot. Black hair, tan, awesome arms, fluent in both English and Japanese and a graduate student. Hooooottttt. So ... Mr. SuperHot's mom recently freinded me on facebook. I have no idea why. I accepted because ... I haven't seen the guy in a year or so now it's not like he's posted dirty lyrics on my profile or vice versa and ... well someone's mom friends you ... kinda don't want to get him in trouble with his parent. I didn't think anything of it until I realized that her friends consist of her children and .... me. Seriously, that's a little odd. Why on earth did she friend me? I can only assume she's trying to marry him off and thought I'd be a good prospect. She's right ... except for my perpetual fear of men. To be honest, if I were going to marry someone, it would definitely be someone very close to this guy. Multilingual, advanced degrees, athletic without being a gym bunny, and hot? Hell yes. But she doesn't know me from adam. Really all she could have known was whatever limited information her son gave her, what school I go to and how I look.
The other thing about this is statistically people marry within their "race." And the opposite sex parent is usually the most resistant to interracial relationships for their child. Meaning, it's weird that an Asian mom would not only let but encourage her son to date an apparently white girl. The father ... I could see. The mother though not so much. This is also why I initially thought very little of the request. I assumed that she just wanted to have a little better connection with her son's acquaintances. 'Cause usually when I date Asian guys I have two obstacles: my grandmother and their mothers. Although, Japanese mothers love me. Probably 'cause I can flub through in Japanese and practice several of the arts. Chinese mothers though inevitably ask me why I'm so strong and what I intend to cook and Korean mothers just sort of stare at me. Now ... I must say not all of this comes from dating. In fact, for my female friends the parents all love me because ... I'm the good example. See Asian Dad Meme. I'm who every parent wants their kid to become. Which is hilarious given my history, but I'll take the love where I can get it.
Anyway, it's weird. He's not a huge facebook guy but why did she friend her children ... and me? I've never even met this woman. I'm sure she's lovely but I'm also sure sir HottyMcSmartHot is also kinda creeped out by the fact that I'm friends with his mom. Doooooesn't exactly help my game with this guy. Although I'm also pretty sure I'm not his type.
The other thing about this is statistically people marry within their "race." And the opposite sex parent is usually the most resistant to interracial relationships for their child. Meaning, it's weird that an Asian mom would not only let but encourage her son to date an apparently white girl. The father ... I could see. The mother though not so much. This is also why I initially thought very little of the request. I assumed that she just wanted to have a little better connection with her son's acquaintances. 'Cause usually when I date Asian guys I have two obstacles: my grandmother and their mothers. Although, Japanese mothers love me. Probably 'cause I can flub through in Japanese and practice several of the arts. Chinese mothers though inevitably ask me why I'm so strong and what I intend to cook and Korean mothers just sort of stare at me. Now ... I must say not all of this comes from dating. In fact, for my female friends the parents all love me because ... I'm the good example. See Asian Dad Meme. I'm who every parent wants their kid to become. Which is hilarious given my history, but I'll take the love where I can get it.
Anyway, it's weird. He's not a huge facebook guy but why did she friend her children ... and me? I've never even met this woman. I'm sure she's lovely but I'm also sure sir HottyMcSmartHot is also kinda creeped out by the fact that I'm friends with his mom. Doooooesn't exactly help my game with this guy. Although I'm also pretty sure I'm not his type.