Criminal charges, my little Korean Burrito, and life in general
A few weeks ago was my court date in Ocean City. I hate the legal system. I mean things worked out, but goodness did I ever have to take the beaten path to get it. The one thing most don't realize when they press charges is the the judge, and the prosecutor were not in your shoes. They don't see things the way you do. It's not a do or die situation for them, a culmination of months of trauma and suffering. So we had to go in there laying out a little pressure on them. It worked too, the defense attorney asked us to step outside and talk. He let us set the terms, and when he saw the evidence we'd collected on our own without the state's help, he got a little shaken. A Private Investigators findings, the photocopies of the actual witness statements, and the like. When it was all said and done, the individual who assaulted me got 3 years probation, a 1 year suspended sentence, and most importantly, a guilty charge on his criminal record. Also, in Maryland probation, you can for no reason have any amount alcohol, below the legal limit or not. In Layman's terms, I'm surprised a booze hound like him managed to stay clean THIS long, much less for the next three years. Oh yeah! $6,300 in restitution also! It's just nice that all of it finally paid off to a degree. All the dealings with the police, all the worrying about the outcome, talking to lawyers, getting advice. It was such an enormous weight off my shoulders.
Ah Lisa. All the nosy people want to know what's going on there. lol I don't mind. The truth is, we don't even know. Nothing is set until July when I'll be making a trip to Buffalo. To be honest, I'd start an immense gush-fest about this incredible person if I could find an appropriate starting point. Some have even written us off as whatever they think we're going to end up as, making incredibly bold predictions about the future. I don't know anything about all that, nor do I want to strain my brain trying to imagine all the possible outcomes. I'm perfectly content with the pace of things right now. It's so hard to be patient and calm about things like this. She's quite the conversationalist. It's like things between her and I just keep rising forward. I've been waiting to the point when things peak out, and taper off, when we reach our proverbial high point. It hasn't happened, though. I mean, I spend a good amount of my free time talking with her. It's odd to me sometimes, how we never run out of subject matter. The time I talk with her is literally the time when I'm not sleeping or working, with the occasional break when I'm doing things with other people and whatnot. The more I write, the more I realize how lame it sounds, and how ahead of myself it probably seems I am getting. And who knows, maybe I am. I am alright with that though. You can't care about someone as much as I do about her, unless you put yourself out there a little. The bottom line is that this girl is one of the most amazing people I've ever met. Her patience, her attitude, her demeanor, her love, all of her attributes mesh together to make one of the most incredible people I've ever been blessed enough to meet. I don't know how to describe it to where people can see past the "here he goes again" mentality they probably have. I'm happy, and it really is due in large part to her
I'm working like a mofo lately as well. Work's been alright. Some folks there are a bit huffy because of my stance about the incident towards the company. It's to be expected. Oh well. I've been pretty active too, spending time with people as often as possible. After the Cinco De Mayo party at Jen and Jessies place (best party ever, for the record), I really feel as though I'm a happier person. It's one thing to assume a more positive demeanor and mindset. It's a whole 'nother thing altogether to see it and feel it in my interaction with the people I love so much. I feel like I have total control of my life again. I'm doing the things I want, not doing the things I don't. Alternately I also love my impatience for bullshit. Yesterday I had a conversation with an old friend of mine, and I was able to effortlessly hold my ground in a disagreement without yielding in a way I didn't agree with, as I often do. It probably seems like a minuscule thing to some, or just flat common sense to others. This is a big thing for me though. To say to someone in not so many words, "you screwed me badly, and no, it's not alright." I sort of had this image that people could be forgiven and situations could be forgotten. It's not right in the long run, though. It's not arrogance or an ill temper. It's having a measure of self-worth that I've never had before. It makes me feel good, is all. I think having this is what allows me to feel more comfortable in my own skin that I ever did. i know certain folks can remember years back to a situation where I forgave someone who really hurt me, who didn't deserve so much as a dirty look from me. They all told me back then that I should have more self worth that to just let it go when someone treats me bad. I took a round-about way to get here, but I think I finally got it. There's too many things that are breathtaking and amazing in life to be worrying about shit like that ^_^
Once again, thank you all for being the amazing people you are. I am who I am, and proud of who I am because of the love and support I have gotten, and continue to get from the people around me ^_^
Ah Lisa. All the nosy people want to know what's going on there. lol I don't mind. The truth is, we don't even know. Nothing is set until July when I'll be making a trip to Buffalo. To be honest, I'd start an immense gush-fest about this incredible person if I could find an appropriate starting point. Some have even written us off as whatever they think we're going to end up as, making incredibly bold predictions about the future. I don't know anything about all that, nor do I want to strain my brain trying to imagine all the possible outcomes. I'm perfectly content with the pace of things right now. It's so hard to be patient and calm about things like this. She's quite the conversationalist. It's like things between her and I just keep rising forward. I've been waiting to the point when things peak out, and taper off, when we reach our proverbial high point. It hasn't happened, though. I mean, I spend a good amount of my free time talking with her. It's odd to me sometimes, how we never run out of subject matter. The time I talk with her is literally the time when I'm not sleeping or working, with the occasional break when I'm doing things with other people and whatnot. The more I write, the more I realize how lame it sounds, and how ahead of myself it probably seems I am getting. And who knows, maybe I am. I am alright with that though. You can't care about someone as much as I do about her, unless you put yourself out there a little. The bottom line is that this girl is one of the most amazing people I've ever met. Her patience, her attitude, her demeanor, her love, all of her attributes mesh together to make one of the most incredible people I've ever been blessed enough to meet. I don't know how to describe it to where people can see past the "here he goes again" mentality they probably have. I'm happy, and it really is due in large part to her
I'm working like a mofo lately as well. Work's been alright. Some folks there are a bit huffy because of my stance about the incident towards the company. It's to be expected. Oh well. I've been pretty active too, spending time with people as often as possible. After the Cinco De Mayo party at Jen and Jessies place (best party ever, for the record), I really feel as though I'm a happier person. It's one thing to assume a more positive demeanor and mindset. It's a whole 'nother thing altogether to see it and feel it in my interaction with the people I love so much. I feel like I have total control of my life again. I'm doing the things I want, not doing the things I don't. Alternately I also love my impatience for bullshit. Yesterday I had a conversation with an old friend of mine, and I was able to effortlessly hold my ground in a disagreement without yielding in a way I didn't agree with, as I often do. It probably seems like a minuscule thing to some, or just flat common sense to others. This is a big thing for me though. To say to someone in not so many words, "you screwed me badly, and no, it's not alright." I sort of had this image that people could be forgiven and situations could be forgotten. It's not right in the long run, though. It's not arrogance or an ill temper. It's having a measure of self-worth that I've never had before. It makes me feel good, is all. I think having this is what allows me to feel more comfortable in my own skin that I ever did. i know certain folks can remember years back to a situation where I forgave someone who really hurt me, who didn't deserve so much as a dirty look from me. They all told me back then that I should have more self worth that to just let it go when someone treats me bad. I took a round-about way to get here, but I think I finally got it. There's too many things that are breathtaking and amazing in life to be worrying about shit like that ^_^
Once again, thank you all for being the amazing people you are. I am who I am, and proud of who I am because of the love and support I have gotten, and continue to get from the people around me ^_^