To Clarify
Okay. So here is the thing, I'm going to explain the sicha-ashon and I'm really sorry my previous post has confused so many people - I received a lot of messages asking me to clarify and I honestly did not think that so many people gave a shit haha... Well, the more analysis I receive, the better and I would appreciate if you guys gave a thought and told me your opinions.
Around Halloween I realize this guy is flirting with me. For months we've worked together, and I never bothered to think about him as a romantic interest... Actually, I thought he was annoying.... With his cocky demeanor, his sarcastic laugh... conceited, typical army guy I thought. So... Halloween we had to come into work dressed up and that was the day that I realized that he might be attracted to me. WTF! I was like not RJ, no way! We're nothing alike. He's your typical Type A personality and I'm definitely not Type A! He's a perfectionist, very focused, very disciplined and has a great work ethic... I mean he's just very good at what he does..... I'm good at my job, but I feel I'm still learning so it's taking me some time.... Anyway, the point is, we appraoach things differently... I just wouldn't have thought that there would ever be anything between us - he was just a guy at work whom I found somewhat annoying and short and buff. He's 5 foot 3 which is short in my opinion and the fact that he's so buff makes him see even shorter, but moving right along.
Then... We have this conversation about Napoleon... Not for any reason other than it was Halloween and we were talking about historical figures. And He like KNEW what he was talking about about! I was impressed... I thought he was an airhead.
Then after that day, I realized he was like "noticing me." He would wink at me multiple times throughout the day.... Comment on how I look, "You look nice today," Flirt, make it apparent that he was "Interested."
Then we stayed like that just flirting (he initiating mostly) until he added me on Nov 10 on Facebook (the fact that I know the dates surprises me, too, so leave me alone). He didn't start chatting with me until a few days later... and up until now it was fine.... Then he starts chatting with me, right.... His conversations flowed, they weren't ever awkward, always comfortable... We talked about a lot of things.... A month later - December 11, I go to his house and we do the deed. We keep talking... almost everyday... January 4, I see him again at his house... I mean those are big events for me, which is why I mention them.... I'd put asterisks or something next to those dates... He knows that I'd never had sex before, I decided to go the American route and fuck a guy before marrying him.... In between that time, I had gotten him gifts... for xmas, for his birthday - just being realllllyyyy reallyyy girly. What?! I like doing that! I like a guy to be a guy and a girl to be a girl. What the hell.
Then I couldn't stand it anymore, and Jan 7 I'm like - what the hell do i do now? And he's like I don't want a girl friend, if that's what you're asking. He wants to focus on his career and I don't know what.... ANd I know he's saying this to me, but I feel like I want to believe he's lying. Because:
I went through his entire facebook... (yea, Stalker) Back to 2008... It didn't take that long because apparently he just recently began to really use it... the guy is 31 years old. But he doesn't really comment on a lot of people's statuses... Well, He would comment on practically all my statuses.... He stopped talking to me as much as he used to on fb chat....
And we got into our first "fight" the other day because I'm like "what do you want???" You flirt like you're casanova at work - so is that all you want? What do you want? Well, his reply is that he wants nothing.... He doesn't flirt like he wants nothing. He flirts like he wants a committed girl friend. But he won't say anything...
Today I go into work and I see him.... He comes over to me and gives me a chocolate.... Puts his hand on my back - where my shirt isn't covering it - so he but his hand on my bare back which just drove me WILD and there I am pretending that it didn't get to me. Two nights ago I was honest to goodness prepared to just forget about his ass because he practically said, "I'm tired of having the same damn conversations over and over again"....
YA, so i'm pushy - but it's only because i want to know where the hell we stand!! Are we only coworkers who flirt???? He won't tell me yes, and he won't tell me no.... It's driving me insane and I'm being sooooo stupid by letting him know that it's getting to me this much. I think that's why he's doing this - because he feels secure.
ARG!!!!
Around Halloween I realize this guy is flirting with me. For months we've worked together, and I never bothered to think about him as a romantic interest... Actually, I thought he was annoying.... With his cocky demeanor, his sarcastic laugh... conceited, typical army guy I thought. So... Halloween we had to come into work dressed up and that was the day that I realized that he might be attracted to me. WTF! I was like not RJ, no way! We're nothing alike. He's your typical Type A personality and I'm definitely not Type A! He's a perfectionist, very focused, very disciplined and has a great work ethic... I mean he's just very good at what he does..... I'm good at my job, but I feel I'm still learning so it's taking me some time.... Anyway, the point is, we appraoach things differently... I just wouldn't have thought that there would ever be anything between us - he was just a guy at work whom I found somewhat annoying and short and buff. He's 5 foot 3 which is short in my opinion and the fact that he's so buff makes him see even shorter, but moving right along.
Then... We have this conversation about Napoleon... Not for any reason other than it was Halloween and we were talking about historical figures. And He like KNEW what he was talking about about! I was impressed... I thought he was an airhead.
Then after that day, I realized he was like "noticing me." He would wink at me multiple times throughout the day.... Comment on how I look, "You look nice today," Flirt, make it apparent that he was "Interested."
Then we stayed like that just flirting (he initiating mostly) until he added me on Nov 10 on Facebook (the fact that I know the dates surprises me, too, so leave me alone). He didn't start chatting with me until a few days later... and up until now it was fine.... Then he starts chatting with me, right.... His conversations flowed, they weren't ever awkward, always comfortable... We talked about a lot of things.... A month later - December 11, I go to his house and we do the deed. We keep talking... almost everyday... January 4, I see him again at his house... I mean those are big events for me, which is why I mention them.... I'd put asterisks or something next to those dates... He knows that I'd never had sex before, I decided to go the American route and fuck a guy before marrying him.... In between that time, I had gotten him gifts... for xmas, for his birthday - just being realllllyyyy reallyyy girly. What?! I like doing that! I like a guy to be a guy and a girl to be a girl. What the hell.
Then I couldn't stand it anymore, and Jan 7 I'm like - what the hell do i do now? And he's like I don't want a girl friend, if that's what you're asking. He wants to focus on his career and I don't know what.... ANd I know he's saying this to me, but I feel like I want to believe he's lying. Because:
I went through his entire facebook... (yea, Stalker) Back to 2008... It didn't take that long because apparently he just recently began to really use it... the guy is 31 years old. But he doesn't really comment on a lot of people's statuses... Well, He would comment on practically all my statuses.... He stopped talking to me as much as he used to on fb chat....
And we got into our first "fight" the other day because I'm like "what do you want???" You flirt like you're casanova at work - so is that all you want? What do you want? Well, his reply is that he wants nothing.... He doesn't flirt like he wants nothing. He flirts like he wants a committed girl friend. But he won't say anything...
Today I go into work and I see him.... He comes over to me and gives me a chocolate.... Puts his hand on my back - where my shirt isn't covering it - so he but his hand on my bare back which just drove me WILD and there I am pretending that it didn't get to me. Two nights ago I was honest to goodness prepared to just forget about his ass because he practically said, "I'm tired of having the same damn conversations over and over again"....
YA, so i'm pushy - but it's only because i want to know where the hell we stand!! Are we only coworkers who flirt???? He won't tell me yes, and he won't tell me no.... It's driving me insane and I'm being sooooo stupid by letting him know that it's getting to me this much. I think that's why he's doing this - because he feels secure.
ARG!!!!