Is it wrong of me to say no?
I'd like to believe that I am a rational person. Most of the time I follow stream lines of logic, points to be exact, and do my best to determine my reaction to the logical evidence at hand. Of course there are situations in which my mind becomes biased in the logic, as emotions take control and see one side, one point of view, mine.
And so I write this journal entry for feedback, outside opinions that may have found some different tilted angle that I didn't see.
It all started when I went to Ozz with Angelo. I had a couple of drinks while having a good time. One of my friends was there as well as his friend named Ryan. Now Angelo and I have this non-discussed rule that we are allowed to dance with different guys as long as it is harmless fun-neither of us are control freaks. So I danced with my friend, and Angelo started to dance with Ryan. I turn to Angelo during part of the song and I hear Angelo telling Ryan "bye, bye." Later I come to find out that Ryan had asked Angelo if I was "actually his boyfriend," "but he is white," and "you could do so much better." So Angelo talked bad about Ryan all night, I was too tipsy to really do anything.
Yesterday Angelo asks me if I want to go to TigerHeat, a club that he absolutly hates. I have asked him almost every week since it has been at the new place if he wanted to go and check it out, but he has always said no because he "doesn't like it there." I come to find by word of his mouth that the Ryan guy had Imed him and apologized about the situation at Ozz and wanted to know if he could make it up to him by taking him to TigerHeat--and Angelo accepted. Doesn't it seem wrong for him to do this? I understand accepted apologys, and "forgive and forget," but to purpously go out with someone to a club, fully knowing that they want to get with you (I heard that he wanted to get with Angelo) when you already have a boyfriend. It's just not right. After presenting Angelo the facts: 1. Ryan made it clear he was interested in you 2. Ryan made it clear that he doesn't respect our relationship 3. Ryan is now inviting you to go to a club with him. I thought it would be completely logical that he realize it was not the correct thing to do. This was not the case and told me that if I didn't want him to go to just say so. The point is I shouldn't have to say no don't go, he should be able to see what is going on, which leads me to believe that maybe what he is doing is on purpose all along. He says he is loyal to me, he would never cheat on me because he cares about me so much, and he just wants to go out to meet new people. But after spending a day evaulating the situation I fear that he obviously doesn't care about me that much, that he would be willing to spend time with this person that is trying to break us up.
Maybe I shouldn't be focusing on the logical points of Ryan's agenda to "get to know Angelo," but Angelo's agenda instead. 1. He wants to go to a club (that he has said he HATES going to) with a person that he knows is interested in him as "more than friends." 2. He hasn't been getting in contact with me latley but then says "he misses me" when I eventually call him or IM him. 3. He said he changed his picture on XY to one of him and I from Frisco, yet when I went to check it, it was just HIS face, he deleted the fact that he was currently seeing someone, and despite the fact he tells me it's just to "look for new friends," his title states "looking for some fun."
I think it's beginning to seem very clear to me, and his choice for sunday is going to determine the status of our relationship, if he hasn't already.
And so I write this journal entry for feedback, outside opinions that may have found some different tilted angle that I didn't see.
It all started when I went to Ozz with Angelo. I had a couple of drinks while having a good time. One of my friends was there as well as his friend named Ryan. Now Angelo and I have this non-discussed rule that we are allowed to dance with different guys as long as it is harmless fun-neither of us are control freaks. So I danced with my friend, and Angelo started to dance with Ryan. I turn to Angelo during part of the song and I hear Angelo telling Ryan "bye, bye." Later I come to find out that Ryan had asked Angelo if I was "actually his boyfriend," "but he is white," and "you could do so much better." So Angelo talked bad about Ryan all night, I was too tipsy to really do anything.
Yesterday Angelo asks me if I want to go to TigerHeat, a club that he absolutly hates. I have asked him almost every week since it has been at the new place if he wanted to go and check it out, but he has always said no because he "doesn't like it there." I come to find by word of his mouth that the Ryan guy had Imed him and apologized about the situation at Ozz and wanted to know if he could make it up to him by taking him to TigerHeat--and Angelo accepted. Doesn't it seem wrong for him to do this? I understand accepted apologys, and "forgive and forget," but to purpously go out with someone to a club, fully knowing that they want to get with you (I heard that he wanted to get with Angelo) when you already have a boyfriend. It's just not right. After presenting Angelo the facts: 1. Ryan made it clear he was interested in you 2. Ryan made it clear that he doesn't respect our relationship 3. Ryan is now inviting you to go to a club with him. I thought it would be completely logical that he realize it was not the correct thing to do. This was not the case and told me that if I didn't want him to go to just say so. The point is I shouldn't have to say no don't go, he should be able to see what is going on, which leads me to believe that maybe what he is doing is on purpose all along. He says he is loyal to me, he would never cheat on me because he cares about me so much, and he just wants to go out to meet new people. But after spending a day evaulating the situation I fear that he obviously doesn't care about me that much, that he would be willing to spend time with this person that is trying to break us up.
Maybe I shouldn't be focusing on the logical points of Ryan's agenda to "get to know Angelo," but Angelo's agenda instead. 1. He wants to go to a club (that he has said he HATES going to) with a person that he knows is interested in him as "more than friends." 2. He hasn't been getting in contact with me latley but then says "he misses me" when I eventually call him or IM him. 3. He said he changed his picture on XY to one of him and I from Frisco, yet when I went to check it, it was just HIS face, he deleted the fact that he was currently seeing someone, and despite the fact he tells me it's just to "look for new friends," his title states "looking for some fun."
I think it's beginning to seem very clear to me, and his choice for sunday is going to determine the status of our relationship, if he hasn't already.