Word Dump

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I've become really critical of people's speaking styles lately. Not necessarily how "articulate" or "eloquent" they are, but more with how they argue. My mother, logical fallacies galore. And she says so many words without saying a thing

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That's true. I used to do that too, but lately I've been much quieter. Some people think it's because I'm depressed or angry or basically that something is wrong (as you said).

Is it because people are afraid of thinking? I've been told that I think too much, usually when I'm quiet.

I guess sometimes I feel like I have nothing to say. And at first I thought that something was wrong with me when I felt that way. It's because I'm learning to sieve through what I could say and only say significant things. I don't make as many idiotic, unwitty, predictable jokes, I don't complain much anymore, etc.

You know what else I don't like. I don't like that people feel awkward when you don't respond to what they tell you. I've always felt that it's more important that the person to whom you are speaking LISTENS to you. I hate it when conversations are competitions, in which the speakers (note, no listeners) just wait for the other to finish so they can speak. People need to realize that sometimes just having someone listen is significant by itself. Often more significant than having them respond.
And what if they're thinking about what you said and that's why they're quiet. If they respond immediately, they were probably waiting to speak for a while and not really listening.

[tiffannyyyy]

I think we we were brought up to associate
talking and conversation with familiarity and comfort.
It's become trivial now though.
Words don't mean as much as they use to.
So now all that emerges are cliches and insincerity.
We associate silence with coldness and that's why
people find it awkward.
Personally I think the best times you have with a close
friend are the times when you can just sit an soak
in each other's company.
Just being with someone else is enough without
trying to spur up conversation that's pointless and drab.
Or complaining to make conversation.
That's the worst thing.

With the listening thing. . .
you have a point,
but you don't find it disheartening when you pour out your soul and nothing is said in return? Listening involves both hearing the words coming out of the other person's mouth, comprehending it all, as well as connecting to it.
When you're confiding in another person, indulging your internal conversations with another mind, you can be pretty vulnerable. So when the person you're talking to shows no reaction or any insight on what you've just told them, I don't know, I'd feel like "what the fuck."

I hate it when I have a lot to say and someone just laconically replies with "okay." or "cool."
It really makes it seem like what I just said was brushed aside or irrelevent.

Yes to some extent I agree with you,
sometimes I do just want people to listen &
expect nothing in return,
but it's nice to receive a response.