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Today has been lousy and I don't know why. The only identifiably sub-optimal thing that's happened is my attempt at dying a vest didn't work because it turns out that by "polyester/viscose blend" the label means "polyester garment made in the same factory as viscose once was
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You don't have to be grateful for progress. (Sometimes I get optimistic and "Progress! Yay!" at you, but that's more "Don't despair!")
For dysphoria, is there anything that would make it more comfortable to talk about? Like are you worried people wouldn't understand, or wouldn't care, or talking about it would make it feel worse, or something completely different I haven't even guessed?
The article sounds disturbing. However, the world is actually significant less apocalyptic than I thought when I was eleven (not a post-apocalyptic nuclear wasteland, it's possible to go outside without getting fried to death by UV rays, and while global warming is causing damage, I thought we'd be at the "Floods and famine and collapse of society" point already), so maybe it won't be so bad?
Also, two days ago a group of students set up a barricade around the art school and the cops came in and there was rock throwing and gas and rumors a cop was killed, but I was several miles away in an air-conditioned office, and it's creepy how much normal life goes on in the face of that kind of thing.
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Like are you worried people wouldn't understand, or wouldn't care, or talking about it would make it feel worse, or something completely different I haven't even guessed?
It's this thing like there's not going to be immediate and visceral understanding from people who don't experience it, but most of the people I know who DID experience it are people who have transitioned and that opens the whole can of inelegant "I will become POWERFULLY ANGRY WITH YOU for 'stealing' my good luck and 'winning' a thing I ought to have" etc etc being crazy sucks. It's mostly a question of finding someone who also experiences dysphoria who speaks my language who I can trust not to be annoying ... hahha. >:{
I suppose it's worth remembering how each new "thing going wrong" cluster over the course of my life has seemed DOOM DESPAIR WE'RE ALL GONNA DIE (i mean, y'know, 9/11 and all that) and so far the world has not in fact ended and we aren't drowning in a pit of hell; but I also know that people in countries where that WAS the case have had everything turn to shit. Britain's been infamously happy sitting in a barrel of stagnant "nothing changes everything is fine" since about, idk, 1700s? and I suspect we are LONG OVERDUE awful strife and death in the streets.
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Yeah, that sounds like a complicated situation. I can see how it would be hard finding the right person to talk about it with. (Like I'd be happy to listen, but I suspect I'd be unhelpful.)
Didn't you get firebombed during the Blitz? And wasn't there the big terrorist bombing? And riots like a year ago? That's not the collapse of civilization, but it's not nothing either. There's been strife and death on the streets, and there's no rule demanding it be at nation-toppling intensity.
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Well another of my friends has just popped up to say they have the same issue I whined about on Tumblr and ... that is good? I mean it's bad that they have the issue but good that I'm not a "throw stones at the freak" level outsider.
That always comes to naught though! We've been unpleasantly stable for ages. I guess at the time it feels like this, though.
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As long as a problem exists, it's a good thing that people dealing with it can find each other and talk to each other about it.
Yeah, how things feel when you're in it's very different from how things look in hindsight.
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