But I said I DIDN'T want to know
I had my last ultrasound yesterday, which went faster than I thought it would (I still feel dreadful about it jdkenada :( ). I told the tech before she started that my husband would like to see the ultrasound when we're done, and that we didn't know the sex of the baby and didn't want to know, just in case she asked or whatever. She said that's fine.
So 10 minutes(!) later, she finishes up, and goes out to get Jayson. Jay, unfortunately, hadn't arrived yet (as I had told him it would probably be about a half hour or so wait...it always had been before!), so we just went ahead and she showed me screen Bean.
While pointing out things, she used a gender specific word. Looking back, I should have said something right there, but I just shook it off and let it pass because hey, I'm looking at my kid!
But now, the more I think about it, the more it bothers me. I know I'm the 'spoiler queen', but this is one time I really DIDN'T want to be spoiled. I don't know if that was her 'default' - some people will automatically go with 'girl' or 'boy' when talking about the baby. I had that happen with a midwife on my last doctor's visit. She was training with my OB/GYN, and was seeing some of her patients. She told me immediately that her default is 'boy', so if she referred to the Bean as 'he', that's all it was - she didn't actually know Bean's sex. I appreciated the disclaimer and told her as much as we didn't want to know the sex (which surprises a lot of people, but I digress).
I'd like to give her the benefit of the doubt, but now I'll wonder, especially when Bean gets here. I really don't care if Bean is a boy or a girl (I was positive boy at first, but I've been leaning more towards a girl the last couple of months - could just be hormones though, lol), but it just feels as though the 'surprise' may have been, well, ruined.
Or I could just be thinking about this WAY too seriously...
So 10 minutes(!) later, she finishes up, and goes out to get Jayson. Jay, unfortunately, hadn't arrived yet (as I had told him it would probably be about a half hour or so wait...it always had been before!), so we just went ahead and she showed me screen Bean.
While pointing out things, she used a gender specific word. Looking back, I should have said something right there, but I just shook it off and let it pass because hey, I'm looking at my kid!
But now, the more I think about it, the more it bothers me. I know I'm the 'spoiler queen', but this is one time I really DIDN'T want to be spoiled. I don't know if that was her 'default' - some people will automatically go with 'girl' or 'boy' when talking about the baby. I had that happen with a midwife on my last doctor's visit. She was training with my OB/GYN, and was seeing some of her patients. She told me immediately that her default is 'boy', so if she referred to the Bean as 'he', that's all it was - she didn't actually know Bean's sex. I appreciated the disclaimer and told her as much as we didn't want to know the sex (which surprises a lot of people, but I digress).
I'd like to give her the benefit of the doubt, but now I'll wonder, especially when Bean gets here. I really don't care if Bean is a boy or a girl (I was positive boy at first, but I've been leaning more towards a girl the last couple of months - could just be hormones though, lol), but it just feels as though the 'surprise' may have been, well, ruined.
Or I could just be thinking about this WAY too seriously...