Charming conversations we have
I forgot to update the people who read this -- all two of them -- on the FLAEM WAR I had on AIM with one of the guys from school last... uh, was it Monday or Tuesday? I don't remember, stfu.
ANYWAY.
So this kid, Alex. He seems to like me a lot, possibly to the extent of having a crush on me. Kind of irritating at times, doesn't know when to shut up half the time, but nice nonetheless. He's asked me out on dates before via IM, and I've turned him down -- fairly gently -- every time. Last week, he asked me again, and I did the same thing I always do, which is tell him no, I'm not interested, sorry.
But this time, he doesn't just drop the subject like he normally does.
He goes on to ask "why (aren't you interested)?"
Now, anyone with plain sense and a lack of rocks in their head can tell what is wrong with that question. Even me, a total ASSBURGERS failure, can tell you that one does not do that when you're trying to ask someone to go out with you and they tell you no.
I tell him "because I'm not" with the implication not to continue on the subject.
Now, apparently this kid doesn't take hints well, and Doug verified this for me after I showed him the log of the whole IM session. So he goes on to tell me that I should "give people chances" and that I "should be dating because normal people start dating at 16 or so".
Of all the fucking nerve.
Now, my answers to these "points" (if they can be called that) are "not if I'm not interested in dating of any kind period" and "that's not true, and even if it is, I guess I'm not normal, too fucking bad", respectively. I tell him this and keep trying to get him to drop the subject while preparing to block him, but he just keeps going and going with it and refuses to see sense or my side of the story. He can't seem to fathom why I would be offended when he effectively tells me I'm not normal and when he tries to dictate how I should be running my romantic life or lack thereof. Particularly the latter, because the former stopped pissing me off so much a LONG time ago.
In this conversation, he continued to insist that normal people date at the age of 16, sometimes younger, and while yes, sometimes they do, not everyone does, and there are plenty who don't. So I tell him this, and then he starts to put words in my mouth: "So what, you're not going to start dating until you're like 30 or something?"
Needless to say, I am endlessly pissed. The conversation goes in circles for about an hour or so before I let loose on him, because I wasn't keen on yelling at him before: "you have absolutely no place telling me how I should be running my love life and whether I SHOULD be interested in dating or not, that choice is ENTIRELY up to me, and telling me that I'm abnormal for not wanting to date at 17 is not going to endear yourself to me any further; you've already ruined what respect I may have had for you, so you'd be best to stop while you're ahead."
Eventually, I get fed up when he doesn't get the message even when I say it directly to his face with no holds barred and no weasel wording, so I just say "you know what, I'm blocking you, go down some antifreeze", after which he proceeds to try and guilt trip me ("some friend you are") before I block him.
And then a few minutes after I block him, he comes back and IMs me on an alt account.
That just crosses the line with me, absolutely kicks the fucking bar out of the way with reckless abandon. I bitch at him a little more and block this account. He does it one more time after this, and I block him a third time until he apparently gives up.
The next afternoon, Doug IMs me with "Alex says to unblock him because he wants to apologize".
Naturally, this doesn't sit well with me, as it wouldn't sit well with anyone. I tell him "tell Alex that life doesn't work that way; if you piss someone off that badly and tell them such absolutely, hideously offensive things, you're naturally not going to win back their approval the very next day".
He seemed to have missed the point, which was how horribly offended I was by what he said. So I don't expect to be cleaning out my block list for a while. A few months at least, maybe.
And believe me, I don't block many people, but that just... seriously, I never expected him to be that searingly stupid. If I see him at school (summer school, what the fuck, why do I have to go to a fucking summer school session again?), I'm just going to either ignore him, plain and simple, or bitch at him and tell the staff to keep him the fuck away from me until he gains some fucking knowledge of personal space.
THIS IS NOT HOW YOU TREAT GIRLS, TO ALL THOSE OF THE MALE PERSUASION ON MY F-LIST.
(Also Assburgers strikes again, I suppose.)
ANYWAY.
So this kid, Alex. He seems to like me a lot, possibly to the extent of having a crush on me. Kind of irritating at times, doesn't know when to shut up half the time, but nice nonetheless. He's asked me out on dates before via IM, and I've turned him down -- fairly gently -- every time. Last week, he asked me again, and I did the same thing I always do, which is tell him no, I'm not interested, sorry.
But this time, he doesn't just drop the subject like he normally does.
He goes on to ask "why (aren't you interested)?"
Now, anyone with plain sense and a lack of rocks in their head can tell what is wrong with that question. Even me, a total ASSBURGERS failure, can tell you that one does not do that when you're trying to ask someone to go out with you and they tell you no.
I tell him "because I'm not" with the implication not to continue on the subject.
Now, apparently this kid doesn't take hints well, and Doug verified this for me after I showed him the log of the whole IM session. So he goes on to tell me that I should "give people chances" and that I "should be dating because normal people start dating at 16 or so".
Of all the fucking nerve.
Now, my answers to these "points" (if they can be called that) are "not if I'm not interested in dating of any kind period" and "that's not true, and even if it is, I guess I'm not normal, too fucking bad", respectively. I tell him this and keep trying to get him to drop the subject while preparing to block him, but he just keeps going and going with it and refuses to see sense or my side of the story. He can't seem to fathom why I would be offended when he effectively tells me I'm not normal and when he tries to dictate how I should be running my romantic life or lack thereof. Particularly the latter, because the former stopped pissing me off so much a LONG time ago.
In this conversation, he continued to insist that normal people date at the age of 16, sometimes younger, and while yes, sometimes they do, not everyone does, and there are plenty who don't. So I tell him this, and then he starts to put words in my mouth: "So what, you're not going to start dating until you're like 30 or something?"
Needless to say, I am endlessly pissed. The conversation goes in circles for about an hour or so before I let loose on him, because I wasn't keen on yelling at him before: "you have absolutely no place telling me how I should be running my love life and whether I SHOULD be interested in dating or not, that choice is ENTIRELY up to me, and telling me that I'm abnormal for not wanting to date at 17 is not going to endear yourself to me any further; you've already ruined what respect I may have had for you, so you'd be best to stop while you're ahead."
Eventually, I get fed up when he doesn't get the message even when I say it directly to his face with no holds barred and no weasel wording, so I just say "you know what, I'm blocking you, go down some antifreeze", after which he proceeds to try and guilt trip me ("some friend you are") before I block him.
And then a few minutes after I block him, he comes back and IMs me on an alt account.
That just crosses the line with me, absolutely kicks the fucking bar out of the way with reckless abandon. I bitch at him a little more and block this account. He does it one more time after this, and I block him a third time until he apparently gives up.
The next afternoon, Doug IMs me with "Alex says to unblock him because he wants to apologize".
Naturally, this doesn't sit well with me, as it wouldn't sit well with anyone. I tell him "tell Alex that life doesn't work that way; if you piss someone off that badly and tell them such absolutely, hideously offensive things, you're naturally not going to win back their approval the very next day".
He seemed to have missed the point, which was how horribly offended I was by what he said. So I don't expect to be cleaning out my block list for a while. A few months at least, maybe.
And believe me, I don't block many people, but that just... seriously, I never expected him to be that searingly stupid. If I see him at school (summer school, what the fuck, why do I have to go to a fucking summer school session again?), I'm just going to either ignore him, plain and simple, or bitch at him and tell the staff to keep him the fuck away from me until he gains some fucking knowledge of personal space.
THIS IS NOT HOW YOU TREAT GIRLS, TO ALL THOSE OF THE MALE PERSUASION ON MY F-LIST.
(Also Assburgers strikes again, I suppose.)