Goodbye
I ended up taking the first steps toward ending a friendship (if you can call it that) with a person that I don't think appreciates me. I've tried to arrange hanging out with her more often and to have more conversations with her for a full year, but it simply isn't working. She stopped replying to texts or calls and stopped replying to my emails. Our only contact in the last six months or so was via this journal, and I think she finally stopped reading what I write. I feel that if I meant more to her, I wouldn't always have to make the first move or try as hard as I do.
It isn't the first time I've done this. I also did this (kind of) in September with someone who had gushed for weeks prior to her coming back to Salt Lake that we should hang out. She always pours it on thick that she misses me and wants to hang out, only to give me an excuse when she returns home that she didn't get the chance to hang out with anybody. That statement is also always a lie. I called her out on it in a journal entry, and it shut her up completely. She hasn't replied to anything I've sent her since then, be they via phone, email or social networking comment. I'd probably consider my friendship with her over too, which is very odd because of how much appreciation she showed me in written form, but not one ounce in person.
I really should take this approach with more people because I think it'll take a lot of stress out of my life. The list of people that I really enjoy the company of but who are bad at keeping in touch is quite long, and I think I'd be better off without them. This includes a number of good friends, but likely not any of the five people who may read this. I've come to accept their way of communication as normal, but if it is normal, then what is the communication that everyone else shares with me? Extraordinary?
I'm not sure if the person who once said that I had impossibly high standards for being my friend is correct or not, but let her be. If I'm the one who always makes contact with you and only receives lukewarm responses at best, then perhaps this is where it should end.
I think I'm going to post something similar on MySpace to see if there's any reaction from any of the people I'm referring to.
It isn't the first time I've done this. I also did this (kind of) in September with someone who had gushed for weeks prior to her coming back to Salt Lake that we should hang out. She always pours it on thick that she misses me and wants to hang out, only to give me an excuse when she returns home that she didn't get the chance to hang out with anybody. That statement is also always a lie. I called her out on it in a journal entry, and it shut her up completely. She hasn't replied to anything I've sent her since then, be they via phone, email or social networking comment. I'd probably consider my friendship with her over too, which is very odd because of how much appreciation she showed me in written form, but not one ounce in person.
I really should take this approach with more people because I think it'll take a lot of stress out of my life. The list of people that I really enjoy the company of but who are bad at keeping in touch is quite long, and I think I'd be better off without them. This includes a number of good friends, but likely not any of the five people who may read this. I've come to accept their way of communication as normal, but if it is normal, then what is the communication that everyone else shares with me? Extraordinary?
I'm not sure if the person who once said that I had impossibly high standards for being my friend is correct or not, but let her be. If I'm the one who always makes contact with you and only receives lukewarm responses at best, then perhaps this is where it should end.
I think I'm going to post something similar on MySpace to see if there's any reaction from any of the people I'm referring to.