I HAVE FOUND ENLIGHTENMENT IN MY DYNAREL CLASS.
*posted this onto my facebook notes, but since one of you isn't on facebook...-glares-...imma posting it here. 8D The best enlightenment comes from the oddest places.
It's odd because religion class was something I usually go to for understanding God, not myself. But it was a slow day, and casually a problem I had came up in my class. Anyway, I learned something about the true meaning of friendship and love. <3
(I don't know if it's okay to even share this on facebook, because it isn't my blog. But hey, it's a lesson on friendship--and while most of us know a thing or two about friendship, it doesn't hurt to know something extra.)
I mostly got my notes from Yla, edited, added, deleted...etc. XD so credit goes to her because she actually took notes while I chatted with my professor.
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My professor said, "there are two reasons why people befriend each other. You either look for a real companion, someone to lean on, someone to cry with, someone you sincerely think of as just a friend.
And then there are the kind that you befriend because of a hidden desire." Which is true.
I've seen people so close the only thing missing is that they practically live together.
I've seen people that are constantly together, the type you would think would eventually end up together, even when there's nothing in their relationship that constitutes that.
That's the difference.
Some people have this perception on being best friends, especially if they're the opposite gender.
" Kapag bestfriend kita, akin ka. Di ka pwedeng agawin ng iba." But I found out that that idea was wrong. Extremely wrong.
If you're a true friend, you would let that person go and just experience things for him/herself. That person could literally be thousands of miles away, have flings or relationships with one hundred thousand other men/women, and completely forget that you even existed (am I exaggerating?) and you would still care about them. The only thing that matters is that person's happiness.
Yes, if you are their best friend, you've seen their best qualities that you may be looking for in potential girl/boyfriends. But that doesn't mean that it'll be the same.
I wanted equal treatment, when in reality, no one is treated equally. That is my mistake. That was my mistake.
Being a friend is to be a giver, and a receiver.
Let's go to grounds that may be familiar. You love a person. You literally give this person -everything- you have, even if it hurts. This is true love. There is no love without pain, because you are giving a person something special--you give someone a piece of yourself, quite literally. You feel vulnerable and scared, but because you love this person, you give it everything you've got.
It's like how Jesus loved us. He gave us everything, including His life for us. You remember? He was whipped, beaten, and made to carry his own cross before being crucified on it and dying for us. Every bit of the pain he felt, it was the pain he was going to carry for the entire world. He did it, even if it must have hurt, because he loved us.
Today, like I said, you would literally trade -anything- and -everything- for this one person whom you deem worthy, and more important than anyone else, even more so than your own family. It's like we're living for another person.
You would accept this person no matter what, and would respect your friend's decision, even if you aren't happy with it, because you love this person. You would keep loving this person no matter what happens, no matter what he does, what he feels, how he acts, what he says, and how he treats you. Until to the very brink of death, you would accept this person. Love like Jesus. Accept that he's changing, accept that he has new friends, new experiences, new...everything.
As the old, tried and true saying goes -- "Nothing is constant--except change." So it's stupid to think that a person will never, ever change. Change brings growth, whether positive or negative. If you want someone to learn, don't let him copy off your paper--teach them to do it themselves. You let them go, but you gently guide them along their way until they get the correct answer. (Haha, many people do this with me in Algeb-X class. <3 I <3 you guys)
So if this person changes, should you turn your back on them?
No.
If you close the door, then when your friend runs back, what'll he see? A big closed door that he can never open again, because of his mistake. Where will he run to? No one. And that is the saddest thing in the world. I'm sure you feel bad because this person did not meet the standards you have or the standards you unwittingly set for them.
He wasn't what you wanted him to be. He is now the dream. He is the dream you wanted him to become. Does it sound familiar? Sometimes we make this person according to what we've got--we make this person according to what WE want him to be--and that isn't right.
Remember--accept, love, forgive, no matter what or who he wants to be.
My prof said, however tense you are inside, it reflects outside. Why be miserable because of ONE person in this world?
As another friend of mine wisely says, "There are other, better looking fish in the sea. You just have to keep fishing until you find it!"
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I find it funny that we condemn the sinner, and the sin.
In a perfect world, you would forgive the murder, not the murderer. But it doesn't happen like that, as much as I would want it to happen.
I've been called naive, foolish, stupid, bratty, and a dreamer who won't get anywhere in life if I keep on acting the way I do now. And that's all right. I firmly believe that no one is born bad, and that the people who act badly aren't bad--they're just hurting. They're hurting and they have no idea what to do about it because no one will listen to them.
Of course I feel uncomfortable that I've annoyed a lot of people. But that isn't the end-all, be-all of my attitude. I am what I am, and you will get nothing less, because you deserve to see how I really am.
If I could have any wish granted right now, it would be to stop hatred.
Life is too short and too precious to simply live with regrets and hatred in your heart. It makes the heart heavy, and the guilt is great on the conscience. But this is, of course, my point of view.
WHAT KIND OF A FRIEND ARE YOU?
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*I only tagged the person whom I read the note about, and I remembered.
I hope to keep this lesson deeply rooted in my heart, no matter how old I get. I can always turn back to this note and believe in what I wrote..and that makes life a little bit easier.
Just a little.
But it makes my heart glad.
It's odd because religion class was something I usually go to for understanding God, not myself. But it was a slow day, and casually a problem I had came up in my class. Anyway, I learned something about the true meaning of friendship and love. <3
(I don't know if it's okay to even share this on facebook, because it isn't my blog. But hey, it's a lesson on friendship--and while most of us know a thing or two about friendship, it doesn't hurt to know something extra.)
I mostly got my notes from Yla, edited, added, deleted...etc. XD so credit goes to her because she actually took notes while I chatted with my professor.
_________
My professor said, "there are two reasons why people befriend each other. You either look for a real companion, someone to lean on, someone to cry with, someone you sincerely think of as just a friend.
And then there are the kind that you befriend because of a hidden desire." Which is true.
I've seen people so close the only thing missing is that they practically live together.
I've seen people that are constantly together, the type you would think would eventually end up together, even when there's nothing in their relationship that constitutes that.
That's the difference.
Some people have this perception on being best friends, especially if they're the opposite gender.
" Kapag bestfriend kita, akin ka. Di ka pwedeng agawin ng iba." But I found out that that idea was wrong. Extremely wrong.
If you're a true friend, you would let that person go and just experience things for him/herself. That person could literally be thousands of miles away, have flings or relationships with one hundred thousand other men/women, and completely forget that you even existed (am I exaggerating?) and you would still care about them. The only thing that matters is that person's happiness.
Yes, if you are their best friend, you've seen their best qualities that you may be looking for in potential girl/boyfriends. But that doesn't mean that it'll be the same.
I wanted equal treatment, when in reality, no one is treated equally. That is my mistake. That was my mistake.
Being a friend is to be a giver, and a receiver.
Let's go to grounds that may be familiar. You love a person. You literally give this person -everything- you have, even if it hurts. This is true love. There is no love without pain, because you are giving a person something special--you give someone a piece of yourself, quite literally. You feel vulnerable and scared, but because you love this person, you give it everything you've got.
It's like how Jesus loved us. He gave us everything, including His life for us. You remember? He was whipped, beaten, and made to carry his own cross before being crucified on it and dying for us. Every bit of the pain he felt, it was the pain he was going to carry for the entire world. He did it, even if it must have hurt, because he loved us.
Today, like I said, you would literally trade -anything- and -everything- for this one person whom you deem worthy, and more important than anyone else, even more so than your own family. It's like we're living for another person.
You would accept this person no matter what, and would respect your friend's decision, even if you aren't happy with it, because you love this person. You would keep loving this person no matter what happens, no matter what he does, what he feels, how he acts, what he says, and how he treats you. Until to the very brink of death, you would accept this person. Love like Jesus. Accept that he's changing, accept that he has new friends, new experiences, new...everything.
As the old, tried and true saying goes -- "Nothing is constant--except change." So it's stupid to think that a person will never, ever change. Change brings growth, whether positive or negative. If you want someone to learn, don't let him copy off your paper--teach them to do it themselves. You let them go, but you gently guide them along their way until they get the correct answer. (Haha, many people do this with me in Algeb-X class. <3 I <3 you guys)
So if this person changes, should you turn your back on them?
No.
If you close the door, then when your friend runs back, what'll he see? A big closed door that he can never open again, because of his mistake. Where will he run to? No one. And that is the saddest thing in the world. I'm sure you feel bad because this person did not meet the standards you have or the standards you unwittingly set for them.
He wasn't what you wanted him to be. He is now the dream. He is the dream you wanted him to become. Does it sound familiar? Sometimes we make this person according to what we've got--we make this person according to what WE want him to be--and that isn't right.
Remember--accept, love, forgive, no matter what or who he wants to be.
My prof said, however tense you are inside, it reflects outside. Why be miserable because of ONE person in this world?
As another friend of mine wisely says, "There are other, better looking fish in the sea. You just have to keep fishing until you find it!"
__________________________
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I find it funny that we condemn the sinner, and the sin.
In a perfect world, you would forgive the murder, not the murderer. But it doesn't happen like that, as much as I would want it to happen.
I've been called naive, foolish, stupid, bratty, and a dreamer who won't get anywhere in life if I keep on acting the way I do now. And that's all right. I firmly believe that no one is born bad, and that the people who act badly aren't bad--they're just hurting. They're hurting and they have no idea what to do about it because no one will listen to them.
Of course I feel uncomfortable that I've annoyed a lot of people. But that isn't the end-all, be-all of my attitude. I am what I am, and you will get nothing less, because you deserve to see how I really am.
If I could have any wish granted right now, it would be to stop hatred.
Life is too short and too precious to simply live with regrets and hatred in your heart. It makes the heart heavy, and the guilt is great on the conscience. But this is, of course, my point of view.
WHAT KIND OF A FRIEND ARE YOU?
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*I only tagged the person whom I read the note about, and I remembered.
I hope to keep this lesson deeply rooted in my heart, no matter how old I get. I can always turn back to this note and believe in what I wrote..and that makes life a little bit easier.
Just a little.
But it makes my heart glad.