Clearly I cannot speak from first-hand experience, but I do know a few things second-hand.
Robin has yet to find a pill that does not cause nausea, but she has narrowed it down to one that only gives her trouble for the first two or three days of the cycle, and if she is careful with what she eats and does not eat at all for several hours before bed time, she is OK.
Her libido did decrease once she started taking the pill. I am not sure if she became more emotional or not; she says she does like knowing when her period will be for certain, although it seemed pretty regular before. As for depression and other problems, I could not say. Still, as everyone has apparently suggested, you definitely need a new girly-doctor if yours will not even consider your concerns.
As for long-distance and engaged relationships, I cannot speak much to the first, except that this ought not be much worse than college, and it won't be for much longer. As for engagement changing things, that's probably unavoidable. Once Robin and I got engaged (and then married), little quirks that were cute or innocuous or even completely unnoticeable sometimes become irritating. This may be simply because you are spending more time around your true love in general, or because the decisions you are making together are more significant and thus more stressful, or because there is a subconscious or even conscious awareness that this is something that you are going to be putting up with for the rest of your life. However, it is something that you will each learn to live with and deal with in the other, and you will eventually knock each other's rough edges off and become more compatible.
It is true that change is typically bad. In 1660, Lord Falkland said 'When it is not necessary to change, it is necessary not to change.' However, in this case it will be necessary for both of you to change somewhat, but in the end you will both be glad you did.
Being engaged is hard, and so is being married. Being away from someone you love is hard. I do not know how to fix either. Once you have gotten through it, though, you will be glad you did.
I don't know what kind of birth control you should take, though.
As an addition, Robin goes to the Washington County health department for her girly checkups and her pills. She really likes the doctor there, although I do not know her name or the pill she prescribes. If your income is low enough, it might even be cheap or free. We have to pay because we are rich, but even so it is cheaper than going to a private doctor and pharmacist.
Robin has yet to find a pill that does not cause nausea, but she has narrowed it down to one that only gives her trouble for the first two or three days of the cycle, and if she is careful with what she eats and does not eat at all for several hours before bed time, she is OK.
Her libido did decrease once she started taking the pill. I am not sure if she became more emotional or not; she says she does like knowing when her period will be for certain, although it seemed pretty regular before. As for depression and other problems, I could not say. Still, as everyone has apparently suggested, you definitely need a new girly-doctor if yours will not even consider your concerns.
As for long-distance and engaged relationships, I cannot speak much to the first, except that this ought not be much worse than college, and it won't be for much longer. As for engagement changing things, that's probably unavoidable. Once Robin and I got engaged (and then married), little quirks that were cute or innocuous or even completely unnoticeable sometimes become irritating. This may be simply because you are spending more time around your true love in general, or because the decisions you are making together are more significant and thus more stressful, or because there is a subconscious or even conscious awareness that this is something that you are going to be putting up with for the rest of your life. However, it is something that you will each learn to live with and deal with in the other, and you will eventually knock each other's rough edges off and become more compatible.
It is true that change is typically bad. In 1660, Lord Falkland said 'When it is not necessary to change, it is necessary not to change.' However, in this case it will be necessary for both of you to change somewhat, but in the end you will both be glad you did.
Being engaged is hard, and so is being married. Being away from someone you love is hard. I do not know how to fix either. Once you have gotten through it, though, you will be glad you did.
I don't know what kind of birth control you should take, though.
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