Computational Anomalies.
Lately I've found I have to come back and come up with a title after I've written the post. In the past I tended to be able to think of a subject and then let the entry follow along after.
There are two things I really want to say right now. Anything else is bonus material.
The first is that for about half of a week now I've had this incomplete thought in my head. It's like an unfinished math formula. I know that this plus n = answer but I don't know which value to use for n.
It's been bothering me a little bit because now and again I'll casually consider it. Which value for n was I originally thinking about when the idea came to mind?
The trouble is now the answer could be one, the other, or both.
Until I figure out the answer I don't want to write more about it. It was an important thought.
The second thing I wanted to write about was from the To Do list, computers as matchmakers. Aside from getting sick of all of the social complications that go along with dating (so many girls say they hate games, I wonder if that is what they are referring to, or something else) I'm getting tired of the matches.
Over the last, I don't know, six months maybe, my weekly views have gone up, not that that number really means anything. Some of that is a direct result of looking at more profiles and often times you'll get a return look. Some of it is driven by updates, answering questions or explaining them and the like.
Lately I seem to have gotten a rash of people who have rated me highly via...a part of the site that offers a glimpse of a profile. I tend to treat these matches like a game. I try to figure out who rated me highly so that I can try to give them a fair chance instead of dismissing them quickly. More recently I've been trying to do this with everyone but sometimes it's difficult.
I think I may have to go back and re-do my profile, on the one hand those people who are rating me highly tell me that my profile, at some level, must be working. The lack of messages tells me there's still opportunity, and I don't expect the perfect person to message me but I expect if someone is interested they won't wait to hear from me. Maybe their profile never comes up in front of me? If the settings they've selected allow me to see that they visited they stand a better chance but if not if they want me to message them...what if I never see that person's profile on the website?
I am getting tired of it showing me single mothers like it's a rule that I dig women with children. That's really more of an exception, not the rule. If the right woman has children I will consider her, but ideally I'd prefer someone who doesn't have kids yet. They're at a different place in life and it's not something I am ready to dive into. I want to build something with another person first before children are introduced into the picture.
I keep seeing people who want an ambitious mate. Maybe we have different definitions but people who are ambitious and want someone who is the same way I find to be a turn-off. I feel like they are saying that they don't really want anything more than a casual (at best) relationship and even then, maybe they are more interested in the sex and the money the other person will be making but having a high quality committed relationship isn't really a priority for them. Their career, income, and how far/quickly they can get promoted are all far more important to them.
I don't want that. I don't want someone who is going to be disappointed if I don't do things with my life on a schedule that they determine. If I have things I want to do I will do them when I am ready, I don't need to be pushed and I don't need someone who feels that it's acceptable for them to dictate any part of my life.
Let me put it another way. I feel like saying you are looking for an ambitious mate is a red flag for, "I want something that could result in marriage and later a divorce where I take half of what you ambitiously made while we were married." That's a really negative way to look at it and I don't want to be negative but I am trying to be realistic and I don't want to do something that ends in divorce.
There are two things I really want to say right now. Anything else is bonus material.
The first is that for about half of a week now I've had this incomplete thought in my head. It's like an unfinished math formula. I know that this plus n = answer but I don't know which value to use for n.
It's been bothering me a little bit because now and again I'll casually consider it. Which value for n was I originally thinking about when the idea came to mind?
The trouble is now the answer could be one, the other, or both.
Until I figure out the answer I don't want to write more about it. It was an important thought.
The second thing I wanted to write about was from the To Do list, computers as matchmakers. Aside from getting sick of all of the social complications that go along with dating (so many girls say they hate games, I wonder if that is what they are referring to, or something else) I'm getting tired of the matches.
Over the last, I don't know, six months maybe, my weekly views have gone up, not that that number really means anything. Some of that is a direct result of looking at more profiles and often times you'll get a return look. Some of it is driven by updates, answering questions or explaining them and the like.
Lately I seem to have gotten a rash of people who have rated me highly via...a part of the site that offers a glimpse of a profile. I tend to treat these matches like a game. I try to figure out who rated me highly so that I can try to give them a fair chance instead of dismissing them quickly. More recently I've been trying to do this with everyone but sometimes it's difficult.
I think I may have to go back and re-do my profile, on the one hand those people who are rating me highly tell me that my profile, at some level, must be working. The lack of messages tells me there's still opportunity, and I don't expect the perfect person to message me but I expect if someone is interested they won't wait to hear from me. Maybe their profile never comes up in front of me? If the settings they've selected allow me to see that they visited they stand a better chance but if not if they want me to message them...what if I never see that person's profile on the website?
I am getting tired of it showing me single mothers like it's a rule that I dig women with children. That's really more of an exception, not the rule. If the right woman has children I will consider her, but ideally I'd prefer someone who doesn't have kids yet. They're at a different place in life and it's not something I am ready to dive into. I want to build something with another person first before children are introduced into the picture.
I keep seeing people who want an ambitious mate. Maybe we have different definitions but people who are ambitious and want someone who is the same way I find to be a turn-off. I feel like they are saying that they don't really want anything more than a casual (at best) relationship and even then, maybe they are more interested in the sex and the money the other person will be making but having a high quality committed relationship isn't really a priority for them. Their career, income, and how far/quickly they can get promoted are all far more important to them.
I don't want that. I don't want someone who is going to be disappointed if I don't do things with my life on a schedule that they determine. If I have things I want to do I will do them when I am ready, I don't need to be pushed and I don't need someone who feels that it's acceptable for them to dictate any part of my life.
Let me put it another way. I feel like saying you are looking for an ambitious mate is a red flag for, "I want something that could result in marriage and later a divorce where I take half of what you ambitiously made while we were married." That's a really negative way to look at it and I don't want to be negative but I am trying to be realistic and I don't want to do something that ends in divorce.