I just realized that I didn't really see him as someone I'd want to be with in a romantic relationship. I just felt awkward having to explain all the reasons why I wasn't romantically interested in him anymore.
It actually took me three months to realize this. You spend time together, talking and also e-mailing and you start to get a pretty good idea of what makes this person tick. Or at least that's how I am. I like to think I'm pretty good at reading people.
When I was younger, I used to think, "Great. We have all these things we like in common" but that's not enough, you know? I think it's the way we relate to others that's more telling of how two people will get along in the long term.
so you mean it's the different styles in which you two interpersonally interact with other people that caused you to think that you two are not compatible?
or is it a chemistry thing?
i know i've gone out with this one guy in the past so many times - but all those "dates" have been totally platonic...because no matter how much you find that person intellectually stimulating, great sense of humor, etc etc - somehow the chemical spark is not there.
Well, it was a combination of those two factors. I wouldn't say there wasn't any chemistry at all. But it was the kind of chemistry you'd have with a really good friend where you're able to trade barbs --- that doesn't always translate into romantic chemistry.
Yeah, I think I'll stay friends with him. Finding someone you click with --- platonic or otherwise is always a rare thing.
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When I was younger, I used to think, "Great. We have all these things we like in common" but that's not enough, you know? I think it's the way we relate to others that's more telling of how two people will get along in the long term.
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or is it a chemistry thing?
i know i've gone out with this one guy in the past so many times - but all those "dates" have been totally platonic...because no matter how much you find that person intellectually stimulating, great sense of humor, etc etc - somehow the chemical spark is not there.
are you remaining friends with him?
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Yeah, I think I'll stay friends with him. Finding someone you click with --- platonic or otherwise is always a rare thing.
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