Re: We need a different breed of godsanon_j_anonAugust 13 2010, 21:40:10 UTC
As strange as this may sound, I want to hear more of your thoughts on sex. My thought process is... dialectical sounds pretentious, but that's what I think of. I begin with an idea, think of its opposite (or its many opposites) and try to come up with a synthesis, or a complication, or some way to reconcile those ideas. Sex was taught in a binary manner for me: procreation or pleasure. Well, not true. More like three sided: procreation, pleasure, or simply a physical impulse driven by the various hormones of the human body. Add to that the many different stances that various societal bodies take on the matter... yeah
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Re: We need a different breed of godsmazaherAugust 14 2010, 10:46:58 UTC
"I don't think I could accept a direct order anymore": good for you. Bad news: deciding things for yourself is something you can't turn back from, ever. Good news: you're (hopefully) safe from the risk of letting others do it for you. You may want to try and concentrate on how to find ways to get some rest at times, now that you "are far from your beginning and your end" (Dorothy Jones, The Territory of Rigel", 1967). As for sex, where's "showing reciprocal affection"...? It is missing from the list. It is most important. In some form (physical or metaphorical) it is an everyday part of human interactions between individuals who are fond of each other... unless you fall into the trap of limiting the idea of "sex" to the "penetration" concept only. So we are already having four sides, but I feel there may be more. (And, btw, who said there's anything wrong with good old pleasure?)
Funny, how I go from personal to global back down to personal. DrB says that I follow this pattern a lot (and that other people do too).
Rereading those words, I felt kind of lame. Lately, I feel embarrassed when I write the word love. I have no idea why. Or even say it. Discussed it with him, and he asked me why I felt that way. I told him I felt silly and juvenile and childish. When did being "adult" become associated with not expecting affection?
Knowing that I'm not alone is a huge relief. So thank you for telling me about this.
I used to think I was a failure as a female because I didn’t like boys the way all the other girls seemed to.This touches on topics I've been thinking about for a long time, like the role of gender in sexual orientation. I have never strongly associated with either gender, and sometimes I wonder if that's contributed to my sexual orientation. Sometimes I wonder if I had more typical examples of gender roles growing up, if I'd turned out heteronormative. But that argument doesn't necessarily hold because my sister saw the same dynamics played out in my family, she saw me with my ambivalent position, and she's straight as an arrow, loves being cute and feminine. So I have no idea
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Being homo and being pressured to be hetero is difficult. But is equally hard, i tell you, being hetero, and feeling pressured to be otherwise. Perhaps, one day, it wont even be about "love" or "sex" anymore. It'll just be a label.
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Bad news: deciding things for yourself is something you can't turn back from, ever.
Good news: you're (hopefully) safe from the risk of letting others do it for you.
You may want to try and concentrate on how to find ways to get some rest at times, now that you "are far from your beginning and your end" (Dorothy Jones, The Territory of Rigel", 1967).
As for sex, where's "showing reciprocal affection"...?
It is missing from the list. It is most important. In some form (physical or metaphorical) it is an everyday part of human interactions between individuals who are fond of each other... unless you fall into the trap of limiting the idea of "sex" to the "penetration" concept only.
So we are already having four sides, but I feel there may be more.
(And, btw, who said there's anything wrong with good old pleasure?)
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To learn to look in the mirror
And love what I find there.
Yes, I think so.
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Rereading those words, I felt kind of lame. Lately, I feel embarrassed when I write the word love. I have no idea why. Or even say it. Discussed it with him, and he asked me why I felt that way. I told him I felt silly and juvenile and childish. When did being "adult" become associated with not expecting affection?
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There is a poem that I love by a Canadian poet who few know. I studied him in second year, and it was revelatory. This is an exerpt:
I shout LOVE even though it might deafen you ( ... )
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Thank you
(Sometimes I feel a lot like the submarine)
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I used to think I was a failure as a female because I didn’t like boys the way all the other girls seemed to.This touches on topics I've been thinking about for a long time, like the role of gender in sexual orientation. I have never strongly associated with either gender, and sometimes I wonder if that's contributed to my sexual orientation. Sometimes I wonder if I had more typical examples of gender roles growing up, if I'd turned out heteronormative. But that argument doesn't necessarily hold because my sister saw the same dynamics played out in my family, she saw me with my ambivalent position, and she's straight as an arrow, loves being cute and feminine. So I have no idea ( ... )
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But is equally hard, i tell you, being hetero, and feeling pressured to be otherwise.
Perhaps, one day, it wont even be about "love" or "sex" anymore. It'll just be a label.
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