relationships
A topic of my more recent contemplation has been relationships. Relationships of all sorts I suppose, but for a moment consider those between boys and girls of the more romantic sort. This afternoon as I was considering watching a movie, it occurred to me to ponder what is it that makes a movie a "chic flick" and why is it that under a large umbrella stereotype it may be considered that girls like them and boys tend not to. Even more interesting, young children of either gender seem to enjoy these typical historical fairytale if you will less as well. Again with a bias to rejection by boys and girls ages in which boys and boy girl relationships are "icky." This would lead me to one conclusion that it is because they show a fantasy relationship from the perspective of females. So if what we see in these chic flicks is a manifestation of ideal romance and relationship from a female perspective. What is it that the male population sees in their fantasies about romance and relationship? I refuse to believe that the male population is not interested in relationships if for no other reason society would not exist as it is today if they were not. But really what then is the male version of a chic flick? Indeed there are action films, but they are not about relationships...
In a different vane, the relationship of friendship. This is something I have pondered for much of my life. I remember "friendship group" in elementary school that was supposed to aid us and teach us social skills, which might I add seems to have failed rather miserably in the end. I have teammates, other runners, other swimmers do teammates constitute friendships? I must conclude that I do not think so in general. I have co-workers, does working together constitute friendship? Again I must conclude no. There are people I care about, does that make them friends, and yet again no. There are people that care about me, does that make them friends? I think no, that makes them curious or compassionate, perhaps potential friends but not blanketly on that fact the same as I can not say people are friends because I care about them. So what then? People that laugh and talk and play together, they are friends. People that support, people that become ingrained parts of our lives, people that take the time to understand or just to be present. Then when I look at my life, what am I to conclude? And to that I am not sure what to answer. Perhaps my friends are just all on vacation. I did talk to Beffy for some hours the other day, that was beautiful. I miss you Beffy. I miss friends why am I so deficient?
We are both here sitting in this room hours a day, yet we never talk. We are reduced to mumbling and laughing to ourselves hoping that the other will ask what so as to be able so share it.....
In a different vane, the relationship of friendship. This is something I have pondered for much of my life. I remember "friendship group" in elementary school that was supposed to aid us and teach us social skills, which might I add seems to have failed rather miserably in the end. I have teammates, other runners, other swimmers do teammates constitute friendships? I must conclude that I do not think so in general. I have co-workers, does working together constitute friendship? Again I must conclude no. There are people I care about, does that make them friends, and yet again no. There are people that care about me, does that make them friends? I think no, that makes them curious or compassionate, perhaps potential friends but not blanketly on that fact the same as I can not say people are friends because I care about them. So what then? People that laugh and talk and play together, they are friends. People that support, people that become ingrained parts of our lives, people that take the time to understand or just to be present. Then when I look at my life, what am I to conclude? And to that I am not sure what to answer. Perhaps my friends are just all on vacation. I did talk to Beffy for some hours the other day, that was beautiful. I miss you Beffy. I miss friends why am I so deficient?
We are both here sitting in this room hours a day, yet we never talk. We are reduced to mumbling and laughing to ourselves hoping that the other will ask what so as to be able so share it.....