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I never want to be remembered as the grumpy, mopey girl. But I know that's what people see me as. I try to get out there and smile and be positive but whenever I do, something happens that sucks the life out of me. I ask a fellow class mate for some help and they tell me that I never know what's going on and that I need to get a planner. I smile at
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The first step is to change your mind set from "I want people to like me." to "I don't care what they think. I love them anyway." People can sense when someone is trying to win them over simply because they want to be liked. If you focus more on how much you like them regardless of their response then over time the responses you get will become more positive... well, not from everyone, but if your mindset truly changes then it won't bother you as much when people don't like you in return. You'll see that as their problem, not yours, and continue to love them anyway.
And yes, I know you probably have a long list of rebuttals and they're probably all valid. Such as how your parents raised you to be incredibly self-conscious and concerned about what other people think... which is a horrible trait they implanted in your brain that is going to take many years to dissipate the effects and a life time of work to keep it under control... but that is one of the main reasons you have this problem. Yes, I blame your parents. Unfortunately you are stuck cleaning up their mess. But remember, you're an adult now. You can blame them all you want but that won't solve the problem. Only your efforts will.
You know I want the best for you :-) I love you and always will!!!
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