Sudden attack of depression

[annafdd]

It started with this extremely sad article by one Liz Jones, who had never been on my radar before

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[shana]

{{hugs}}

[mevennen]

I've been reading Liz Jones' columns for a while. She's very honest, but I can't help feeling that it's six of one and half a dozen of the other - yes, her husband is clearly a prat, but on her own admission, she's anorexic (in her 40s) and details pretty much everything that he seems to do to thousands of readers every week. Hard to see why either of them stays with the other. For the record, my sympathies are more with her, however

[green_knight]

She writes a column for the back of one of the magazines inside the Mail on Sunday, which I get to read at work.

And she's been whingeing about her husband - who sleeps around and does nothing for her - for at least a year, maybe longer. I've been tempted a lot of times to simply say 'why the fuck are you staying with him? So you can write a weekly column?' but, well, I'm too polite.

The column makes me feel awful, it's too personal. If someone blogged those things for a circle of friends, fine, but to thousands of readers of a daily paper? That's _her_ side of the bad marriage covered, me thinks.

Here are two people who really shouldn't be together. That *is* worse than no relationship, and much worse than having one made awkward by distance.

[annafdd]

She might be a silly, shallow woman, but she breaks my heart all the same. As for this being her side of the story, HIS is worse:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=398998&in_page_id=1879

Ok, so THIS is the Daily Mail. And here me thinking that the Evening Standard was bad.

[green_knight]

If that's how he talks at home, I'd have long since given him his marching orders.

I'm not sure who whines worse, but this very much sounds like a co-dependent relationship -both can blame the other for their failures instead of facing their problems.

Deep down, women love men who stand up to them, who won't be pushed around. They love men who will look them in the eye and tell them to shut up when their hormonal bickering has become too much.

Yeah, right. And he's that man, of course, the last bastion of real manhood, happy to talk in public about how he cheated his wife. Pass me the barf bag, please.

Signed, happily single,

[annafdd]

Yes, my thoughts exactly. Notice that this bastion of virility was living off his wife's money for years.

[redbird]

Yes, your current relationship leaves ample occasions for loneliness. It is a real relationship nonetheless. I realize my own long-distance relationships are shaped differently than yours, but they are real, and important, and as far as I can tell, yours is definitely real.

[wild_irises]

I agree with redbird that a long-distance relationship is no less real, and I also can totally feel with you about how much of a relationship is tangible and how hard it can be to find when the tangibility is not there.

I wish for you soul-satisfying connection over the days and over the years.