from daniel
Hey there,
I have had a really hard time accepting this too. It was traumatizing when I found out. I feel my emotions oscillating between sadness and anger at the situation, and at the misfortune and hard luck that the whole situation has brought with it. Although, as you say there is nothing they could have done differently. Its kind of like in Annie Hall when Woody Allen says "Life is at least as much about luck as it is about any other aspects. Some people are just luckier than others" Maybe some of their luck ran out, but just like all things in life the pendulum will swing back in the other direction. I think its just the unfairness and injustice of it all that all of us mill over again and again to arrive at the same conclusion... It's totally unfair and should have never happened. However, both mom and dad are extremely driven, and they will figure out ways. As far as Dad's health I was devastated as he told me what had been happening with the heart attacks. I talked to them a little about what he might end up doing, and I think ideally Dad may try and just trade stock and ride the market if possible to avoid going back to work. Mom told me she may work with Caiti Norgard's mom and join their law practice. Whether or not those things work out, I'm sure they will do what they need to, but dad shouldn't go into any high stress situations. I would rather live in a box on the corner than lose him over trying to rebuild whatever wealth they lost. Also, I don't know if you were told, and obviously the money is the least of our worries, but I don't know if mom and dad told you that you and I just lost like 4 million dollars in inheritance money. Quite a blow not only because thats a lot of money, but because I think it did something psychologically to them in the sense that they really wanted to leave us something behind when they aren't here anymore. Anyways, I know how you feel about all of this becuase I feel the same way.. I have felt kind of crippled to move on and pursue my own stuff because my mind is so preoccupied with what I have no control over at all. I haven't left the house since I found out, because I just want to be around when a sliver of good news comes down the pipeline.
Well despite these circumstances, and all of the upsetting news.. the only thing left to do is accept how unfair it all is, and try and move on because thats what they are doing. I know that all of us as a family will make it through this tough time. We've been through many in the past, and will get through this one too. The deal with Sanibel is hard too, but their may still be a chance for them to do something there. Just like we could have never predicted this happening maybe something unexpected and good will happen with that situation, or at least that what I hope for. Well, for dad for Fathers Day I am downloading and sending him a bunch of live albums that I think he will like, and maybe take some stress away. I hope you are doing OK, and just call me or whatever if you want to talk. I'm just trying to look forward and be optimistic as much as I can. Things will work out eventually. Oh and by the way I'm glad you are doing well with your research and classes. Keep me updated.
Love you and miss you,
Daniel
I have had a really hard time accepting this too. It was traumatizing when I found out. I feel my emotions oscillating between sadness and anger at the situation, and at the misfortune and hard luck that the whole situation has brought with it. Although, as you say there is nothing they could have done differently. Its kind of like in Annie Hall when Woody Allen says "Life is at least as much about luck as it is about any other aspects. Some people are just luckier than others" Maybe some of their luck ran out, but just like all things in life the pendulum will swing back in the other direction. I think its just the unfairness and injustice of it all that all of us mill over again and again to arrive at the same conclusion... It's totally unfair and should have never happened. However, both mom and dad are extremely driven, and they will figure out ways. As far as Dad's health I was devastated as he told me what had been happening with the heart attacks. I talked to them a little about what he might end up doing, and I think ideally Dad may try and just trade stock and ride the market if possible to avoid going back to work. Mom told me she may work with Caiti Norgard's mom and join their law practice. Whether or not those things work out, I'm sure they will do what they need to, but dad shouldn't go into any high stress situations. I would rather live in a box on the corner than lose him over trying to rebuild whatever wealth they lost. Also, I don't know if you were told, and obviously the money is the least of our worries, but I don't know if mom and dad told you that you and I just lost like 4 million dollars in inheritance money. Quite a blow not only because thats a lot of money, but because I think it did something psychologically to them in the sense that they really wanted to leave us something behind when they aren't here anymore. Anyways, I know how you feel about all of this becuase I feel the same way.. I have felt kind of crippled to move on and pursue my own stuff because my mind is so preoccupied with what I have no control over at all. I haven't left the house since I found out, because I just want to be around when a sliver of good news comes down the pipeline.
Well despite these circumstances, and all of the upsetting news.. the only thing left to do is accept how unfair it all is, and try and move on because thats what they are doing. I know that all of us as a family will make it through this tough time. We've been through many in the past, and will get through this one too. The deal with Sanibel is hard too, but their may still be a chance for them to do something there. Just like we could have never predicted this happening maybe something unexpected and good will happen with that situation, or at least that what I hope for. Well, for dad for Fathers Day I am downloading and sending him a bunch of live albums that I think he will like, and maybe take some stress away. I hope you are doing OK, and just call me or whatever if you want to talk. I'm just trying to look forward and be optimistic as much as I can. Things will work out eventually. Oh and by the way I'm glad you are doing well with your research and classes. Keep me updated.
Love you and miss you,
Daniel