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I was talking to Walter earlier. we were talking about marriage and what it's about. His opinion is that it should be private if at all, and that it's completely unnecessary. Marriage is something actually i've always contemplated - especially in recent years what with all my friends getting married and what not. Why was it done to begin with? sure no it's all legal stuff and taxes, but what about before then?
marriage is an "i love you so much i give you everything. this is my devotion and dedication, that I am yours for as long as i live" while the other person reciprocates.
"but even to say 'I love you' is to put limitations on love," Walter retorted. "'I love you for... doing the dishes,' instead of just 'I love', which is far more unconditional."
But just to say "i love" is yes, unconditional and limitless, but to say "I love you" can also be unconditional and limitless, though directed in one catagory Even the Universe has infinite limitations within its limitlessness. As some one pointed out to me, while numbers are infinate, you can limit which numbers - for example, prime numbers, or odd numbers. while it poses some limit, its infinity within the limit. I"m not wording this very well, and i'm certain there's a term for this.
I once read a depressing fact (observation, rather), then found that i agreed with it, though the romantic in me tries to differ from it. Walter brought this point up as well - we do not love a person. We love how a person can or does make us feel with their existance. In my mind I argued this over and over - if that were the case, then why would we bend over backward to make the person we love happy? because their happiness brings us happiness.
So, to be of the most accuracy, instead of saying "I love you", "You cause me to love." It's less intimidating, more complimentary, and presenting oru love for said person as a gift on their part, to you. A gift which says they have opened your heart to the highest level of happiness.Surely you would not run away from some one who said "you cause me to smile"?
While writing this out though, i have finally allowed the romantic in me to level up slightly. If we do not love the person, but rather how said person makes you feel, then why does it hurt you to know your loved one is hurting? But then again, i suppose it's the same as when a loved one would go away, that you would hurt. The feeling they bring is like a drug, and if they're hurting, their energy is not the same, and the drug is taken away.
i could very well be pesemistic. blame walter, he brought it up. lol
marriage is an "i love you so much i give you everything. this is my devotion and dedication, that I am yours for as long as i live" while the other person reciprocates.
"but even to say 'I love you' is to put limitations on love," Walter retorted. "'I love you for... doing the dishes,' instead of just 'I love', which is far more unconditional."
But just to say "i love" is yes, unconditional and limitless, but to say "I love you" can also be unconditional and limitless, though directed in one catagory Even the Universe has infinite limitations within its limitlessness. As some one pointed out to me, while numbers are infinate, you can limit which numbers - for example, prime numbers, or odd numbers. while it poses some limit, its infinity within the limit. I"m not wording this very well, and i'm certain there's a term for this.
I once read a depressing fact (observation, rather), then found that i agreed with it, though the romantic in me tries to differ from it. Walter brought this point up as well - we do not love a person. We love how a person can or does make us feel with their existance. In my mind I argued this over and over - if that were the case, then why would we bend over backward to make the person we love happy? because their happiness brings us happiness.
So, to be of the most accuracy, instead of saying "I love you", "You cause me to love." It's less intimidating, more complimentary, and presenting oru love for said person as a gift on their part, to you. A gift which says they have opened your heart to the highest level of happiness.Surely you would not run away from some one who said "you cause me to smile"?
While writing this out though, i have finally allowed the romantic in me to level up slightly. If we do not love the person, but rather how said person makes you feel, then why does it hurt you to know your loved one is hurting? But then again, i suppose it's the same as when a loved one would go away, that you would hurt. The feeling they bring is like a drug, and if they're hurting, their energy is not the same, and the drug is taken away.
i could very well be pesemistic. blame walter, he brought it up. lol