Oh, Mere. I'm so sorry about what you're facing. I recognize a lot of the same bullshit that turbo charged the end of my relationship with B two years ago. We eventually sorted our shit out, but I don't know that I've ever completely gotten over the shitty way he treated me. I wish I had some kind of meaningful advice for you, but I doubt there is really anything that can make you feel better right now.
I can only encourage you to stay in anger. When B and I broke up, I was in denial for a few months, and I didn't really start getting angry until I sent him an e-mail about my appearance on "The Montell Show" and he lured me back in, only to hurt me again. I stayed with my anger until right up until the time he came back and I gave him another shot, but each time he hurts me, my mind wanders back there and I do question whether or not I was insane in giving him another chance.
In any case...enough about me. I really want to applaud you in getting angry and recognizing that these behaviors are unacceptable. It's unacceptable to a casual acquaintance, never mind a person he professed to love. Without knowing him, I can honestly say he's acting like a child--an immature, inexperienced juvenile. I went back and re-read your entries, and I agree that your initial reaction was spot on. By all outward appearances, this absolutely has been his plan for some time. I don't believe for a second that when he first told you he wanted to move out, he was not actively encouraging the thoughts within himself of the end of your relationship. And that's just shitty, too. He should have been honest enough to tell you he was having second thoughts and had concerns about moving forward, and he chose not to do that. Minus serious points in my book.
Feel free to reach out--I can't totally identify with what you're going through, but know that you are not alone.
I can only encourage you to stay in anger. When B and I broke up, I was in denial for a few months, and I didn't really start getting angry until I sent him an e-mail about my appearance on "The Montell Show" and he lured me back in, only to hurt me again. I stayed with my anger until right up until the time he came back and I gave him another shot, but each time he hurts me, my mind wanders back there and I do question whether or not I was insane in giving him another chance.
In any case...enough about me. I really want to applaud you in getting angry and recognizing that these behaviors are unacceptable. It's unacceptable to a casual acquaintance, never mind a person he professed to love. Without knowing him, I can honestly say he's acting like a child--an immature, inexperienced juvenile. I went back and re-read your entries, and I agree that your initial reaction was spot on. By all outward appearances, this absolutely has been his plan for some time. I don't believe for a second that when he first told you he wanted to move out, he was not actively encouraging the thoughts within himself of the end of your relationship. And that's just shitty, too. He should have been honest enough to tell you he was having second thoughts and had concerns about moving forward, and he chose not to do that. Minus serious points in my book.
Feel free to reach out--I can't totally identify with what you're going through, but know that you are not alone.
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