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[animar506]

Hi Friends,
Just a note that there will be no specific names used in the text of the messages. Feel free to discuss ideas, how to accomplish them and just be friends.

The purpose of this list is to learn about restoring friendships and learning about disorders that tend to prevent such relational occurrances.

Thanks for being a part of this

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Re: hi!

[shyallyn]

John,

I... think I need to apologize to you. I acted rashly, I hope you can understand that I was once very protective of my friend. I would still be, but I made the mistake of speaking some very harsh things because of my own anger. I won't name names, but I know you know what I'm talking about. I see now. Being pushed away so violently hurts and then when you try to apologize, you get rebuffed in such a way, that it makes you out to be the bad guy. I spoke first with you without knowing the details, I took sides, I hope you will understand why. I thought the friendship I offered would help. It turns out I was just being an enabler and I hurt that person more than I helped. Whether or not Asperger's exists in reality, it DOES exist in someone we both know, only it exists in their mind.

If you choose to ignore this, I really do understand. But I had to say this because I do realize I was wrong for my treatment to you and for my words. I hope you can forgive me for that. At least understand, that in our own way, we were both doing what we thought was right. I see that now.

It's ok

[seekingtheway]

sorry I didn't reply earlier, but I've just now gotten back here.
No worries, I accept your apology and I hope you can forgive me for that whole mess. I don't really remember anything bad you did to me, so no problem. I could have handled things better, but it was such an unfair attack on me, I was just shocked and I felt guilty.
It does take two to tango, but I was only trying to help. Sometimes friends have to have tough love for their friends. I did waht I did out of care for this person, NOT to harm them!

Again, I humbly accept your kind words. I hope we can talk freely and figure out how best to help each other and all our friends! Please, let me know what I can do to make this possible.

Here's to friendship!

Re: It's ok

[shyallyn]

Glad to hear it. I have already come to the conclusion that you never did anything that needed to be forgiven for. I think you were a better friend than I. :\ We all could have handled things better, but sometimes our anger/shock and sense of betrayal just get the better of us. Mine was in the form of an email. I cannot tell you how out of the blue it felt to me! I lashed out, which I shouldn't have. There is a whole long post in my journal about it, how I felt and everything else. It's past me now. I miss my friend, but I've come to the conclusion that perhaps the relationship as it was, was not good for me? I don't know. I know there is a reason for everything. Anyway, I don't mean to cut this so short, but I need some sleep. I am really tired. I've added you to my f-list, you can go and see why I am so darn exhausted from all that's happened today.

I am glad you accepted my apology.