Can't Think of Any Sort of Witty Title
Haha, anxiety medicine actually works. Who knew?
I generally try to stay away from matters involving relationships. People get hurt too easily and my own identity and orientation tends to interfere.
I'm friendly with nearly anyone who says more than a couple of sentences to me. Sometimes maybe a bit too friendly, and that leads to people getting the wrong message.
I've had several issues with a few guys getting their hopes up and when they do I become avoidant. I hate doing it, but it's that or just telling them straight out that I don't identify as female and I am not attracted to men.
What becomes more of a problem is when the person knows said facts and still makes noticeable advances towards me.
Especially when they've consistently made snide remarks about my biology, pointing out feminine characteristics I cannot control, and rubbed it in my face. It is just asking for me to eventually show them how quickly my temper can rise. It's not anything to shit around with, I'm not as docile as you think I am.
Anyway, bleh, rant over.
Sometimes I wish people could clue in to my body language more so because that is where I say the most. How close I allow a person to stand or sit near me and how I react to physical contact are tell-tale signs. Especially when I hug people. If I begin to pull away or struggle you've crossed the line. If I stay still I'm somewhat comfortable with you, gradually strengthening the hug means I feel like I can trust you pretty well. If I let someone hug/cling to me it means I enjoy their company immensely. Now, if I hug back firmly and shove my face into your chest and nuzzle you there (yes I do nuzzle) you've got my absolute trust and affection. I only hug my parents this way. No one else thus far.
Ok, now the rant is over. ._.
I generally try to stay away from matters involving relationships. People get hurt too easily and my own identity and orientation tends to interfere.
I'm friendly with nearly anyone who says more than a couple of sentences to me. Sometimes maybe a bit too friendly, and that leads to people getting the wrong message.
I've had several issues with a few guys getting their hopes up and when they do I become avoidant. I hate doing it, but it's that or just telling them straight out that I don't identify as female and I am not attracted to men.
What becomes more of a problem is when the person knows said facts and still makes noticeable advances towards me.
Especially when they've consistently made snide remarks about my biology, pointing out feminine characteristics I cannot control, and rubbed it in my face. It is just asking for me to eventually show them how quickly my temper can rise. It's not anything to shit around with, I'm not as docile as you think I am.
Anyway, bleh, rant over.
Sometimes I wish people could clue in to my body language more so because that is where I say the most. How close I allow a person to stand or sit near me and how I react to physical contact are tell-tale signs. Especially when I hug people. If I begin to pull away or struggle you've crossed the line. If I stay still I'm somewhat comfortable with you, gradually strengthening the hug means I feel like I can trust you pretty well. If I let someone hug/cling to me it means I enjoy their company immensely. Now, if I hug back firmly and shove my face into your chest and nuzzle you there (yes I do nuzzle) you've got my absolute trust and affection. I only hug my parents this way. No one else thus far.
Ok, now the rant is over. ._.