The sadness of Miss Bebe
So, with G's new job comes new changes for Miss Bebe. She is going to start daycare, "School," two days a week. I have been talking to her about this for the past two weeks. G and I feel it will be a good thing for her now that she is two. Additionally, she needs to improve her social skills with her own age group. Intellectually, she could use the additional stimulation too, she is ALREADY READING!
Miss Bebe would appear to be of two minds about this transition. When we toured the "school" she liked the classroom and her teacher. I asked if she liked it, and she said, "Yes." She did not want to leave when we were heading out, so I took that as a good sign.
However, everytime I talk about school she gets upset. I told her yesterday morning that we were going to tour the school after Mumma and Deh-deh finished work. She shouted, "No school, that's Poppa's days!" She became tearful and cried the whole wy to G's parents. I don't know how she can possibly understand that level of cause and effect yet? Should a 2 year old be able to understand that if she goes to school she won't get Poppa/Bebe alone days?
This anxiety and fear escalted later last night. She was fine during the ride home from the daycare and during dinner. Then, around 8:00pm she started to get upset. She kept asking for G's parents and started banging the phone asking to talk to them. She was adimant that she needed to speak to them right away. So, like any other indulgent parent, I called them right away! She must have talked to them for 20 minutes. The conversation she had with G's dad was heartbreaking.
bebe: hi
Poppa: Hi,(G) did you see your school today?
b: Yes
P: Did you like it?
b: Yes
P: You can go to school like K now!
b: Why?
P: Because you are growing up.
b: Why? (crying a little)
P: Because it is the way of things.
Aw, man...it was so sad. She went to bed afterward, but woke up 45 minutes later crying and pulling on her foot shouting, "ow ow ow!" So, on top of the stress of emotional growth and separation she is having growing pains too! She stayed up until 10pm cuddling in bed with me. We watched some Teletubbies, drank milk, and then watched Airline. She seemed happier when she finally fell asleep.
Ideally, she would stay home until she started school. However, I think she could really benefit from more age appropriate socialization. I just feel so sad for her during this transition, because it is hard and she has to do this on her own. I will try to help as much as I can, but growing up is so hard!
Miss Bebe would appear to be of two minds about this transition. When we toured the "school" she liked the classroom and her teacher. I asked if she liked it, and she said, "Yes." She did not want to leave when we were heading out, so I took that as a good sign.
However, everytime I talk about school she gets upset. I told her yesterday morning that we were going to tour the school after Mumma and Deh-deh finished work. She shouted, "No school, that's Poppa's days!" She became tearful and cried the whole wy to G's parents. I don't know how she can possibly understand that level of cause and effect yet? Should a 2 year old be able to understand that if she goes to school she won't get Poppa/Bebe alone days?
This anxiety and fear escalted later last night. She was fine during the ride home from the daycare and during dinner. Then, around 8:00pm she started to get upset. She kept asking for G's parents and started banging the phone asking to talk to them. She was adimant that she needed to speak to them right away. So, like any other indulgent parent, I called them right away! She must have talked to them for 20 minutes. The conversation she had with G's dad was heartbreaking.
bebe: hi
Poppa: Hi,(G) did you see your school today?
b: Yes
P: Did you like it?
b: Yes
P: You can go to school like K now!
b: Why?
P: Because you are growing up.
b: Why? (crying a little)
P: Because it is the way of things.
Aw, man...it was so sad. She went to bed afterward, but woke up 45 minutes later crying and pulling on her foot shouting, "ow ow ow!" So, on top of the stress of emotional growth and separation she is having growing pains too! She stayed up until 10pm cuddling in bed with me. We watched some Teletubbies, drank milk, and then watched Airline. She seemed happier when she finally fell asleep.
Ideally, she would stay home until she started school. However, I think she could really benefit from more age appropriate socialization. I just feel so sad for her during this transition, because it is hard and she has to do this on her own. I will try to help as much as I can, but growing up is so hard!