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Feb 26, 2008 12:03

I need to keep reminding myself that child development or parenting should not be a competitive sport.

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Jokes aside though... aite February 26 2008, 18:09:23 UTC

Maybe I'm a bit naive about it or haven't run into the super-conpetitive people yet, but I think that those aren't competitive sports if we don't treat them as such. As in, we have the power to define parenting in non-competitive terms and stick to that.

Re: Jokes aside though... ex_yzzzma459 February 26 2008, 18:53:25 UTC

Agreed. If you are not competitive about child development you won't be bothered by other people bragging or measuring up. BUT if you are struggling to stop competing, some comments can be like smoke in an ex-smoker's face.

Re: Jokes aside though... aite February 26 2008, 19:02:12 UTC

We can hang around other reasonably relaxed parents and all enjoy each other's and our kids' company.

Re: Jokes aside though... angerona February 26 2008, 19:27:31 UTC

Of course. That's exactly what I'm saying: that I should keep myself from being drawn into the competiveness or feeling competitive.

Re: Jokes aside though... aite February 27 2008, 17:50:36 UTC

Right, I'm saying the same thing, that it's up to us, really. And to some extent it has to do with choosing a sane circle of friends, which, I think, we've done a good job at so far. I also suspect that some of the child competition winds are blowing from the business community, so to speak. Some of the developmental products and services are just someone's lucky marketing idea.

Re: Jokes aside though... angerona February 27 2008, 17:54:33 UTC

I don't think it's the other people who make me feel that way, it's really me. So that's why I need to keep reminding it to myself, not to others :)

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