Okay, honest time.
Honestly? I try to find the best in people. I do. I give people more chances than I probably should on occasion. I keep trying things again, hoping it will be better this time.
When I start trying to get back into the groove of things? When I start thinking, you know, maybe things have changed. Maybe I've changed. Maybe it will be more fun this time around. It starts looking good for a while. People start looking nice again, I start thinking those flaws are just little quirks that I've overreacted to in the past. Maybe I just haven't tried hard enough to play enough pups with other people, and to establish relationships and things like I should, and that's why I stopped playing.
It's really disappointing to find them hurting the few people I've come to know and love well in my time a step back from DF. It hurts to see them exhibiting the traits that they've so often scolded in others.
I'm not saying that anyone was cruel directly to me, or that I'm not guilty of some of the same crimes, but really - there's a reason I stopped playing, and while part of that reason was my own lack of ambition, yes, it's also very largely because the group that advertises itself as being so open and inviting and understanding and so much better and more mature than the rest of DF-
Really isn't. It can be just as spiteful, cruel, hypocritical, elitist and as completely oblivious to the harm it does as any other.
It's time to be happy with what I've got, and grateful for it.
Three scarcities that are better than abundance: a scarcity of fancy talk, a scarcity of cows in a small pasture, a scarcity of friends around the beer.
~ "Triads," 9th Century Ireland
When I start trying to get back into the groove of things? When I start thinking, you know, maybe things have changed. Maybe I've changed. Maybe it will be more fun this time around. It starts looking good for a while. People start looking nice again, I start thinking those flaws are just little quirks that I've overreacted to in the past. Maybe I just haven't tried hard enough to play enough pups with other people, and to establish relationships and things like I should, and that's why I stopped playing.
It's really disappointing to find them hurting the few people I've come to know and love well in my time a step back from DF. It hurts to see them exhibiting the traits that they've so often scolded in others.
I'm not saying that anyone was cruel directly to me, or that I'm not guilty of some of the same crimes, but really - there's a reason I stopped playing, and while part of that reason was my own lack of ambition, yes, it's also very largely because the group that advertises itself as being so open and inviting and understanding and so much better and more mature than the rest of DF-
Really isn't. It can be just as spiteful, cruel, hypocritical, elitist and as completely oblivious to the harm it does as any other.
It's time to be happy with what I've got, and grateful for it.
Three scarcities that are better than abundance: a scarcity of fancy talk, a scarcity of cows in a small pasture, a scarcity of friends around the beer.
~ "Triads," 9th Century Ireland