Take her shopping and buy her some things for just your house.
Maybe mom just doesn't want to deal with the hassle of keeping track of her stuff and at her age she's likely to be forgetting to bring things back. It's hard enough to keep track of their school stuff let alone clothes and toys that are always coming and going.
Oh we have, we did so again tonight. Another $500 worth in fact.
The reality that we buy new clothes and we allow Aurora to wear what she wants so good new clothes go that direction but Alli specifically goes out of her way to make Aurora change out of clothes that fit or are newer so they don't come this direction is terrible to her.
I would maintain the clothes belong to the child not the adult.
I have bought new toys for them to see them go that direction and not come back - I don't complain to the kids (or her) or even need/want them to come back. I want them to be used how the kids want them to be used. If I had an item that was important to come back I'd just let her know.
I don't think there is anything wrong with either approach and I suspect this is a common difference of ideas among divorced parents and just one of many things children with divorced parents need to learn to navigate
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Re: by the way...angeloMarch 20 2008, 13:47:17 UTC
It's one of our favorite pictures of her from this year. I haven't been so proud of my photography over the years but I have to admit that it was a beautiful shot.
Maybe mom just doesn't want to deal with the hassle of keeping track of her stuff and at her age she's likely to be forgetting to bring things back. It's hard enough to keep track of their school stuff let alone clothes and toys that are always coming and going.
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The reality that we buy new clothes and we allow Aurora to wear what she wants so good new clothes go that direction but Alli specifically goes out of her way to make Aurora change out of clothes that fit or are newer so they don't come this direction is terrible to her.
I would maintain the clothes belong to the child not the adult.
I have bought new toys for them to see them go that direction and not come back - I don't complain to the kids (or her) or even need/want them to come back. I want them to be used how the kids want them to be used. If I had an item that was important to come back I'd just let her know.
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Thanks!
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