oh dear
I officially have four (4) couples of friends who are engaged. To be married. And of these 4, I can only say that ONE I feel is actually ready to be married. Of this four, two couples have been together 4 years. Of those two couples, one are high school sweethearts. The other is the couple I feel is ready to be married because they are 1) not still in college, and 2) not still in college. With this couple, I feel that they know enough about life and everything to be able to safely say that they should be getting married. They have dated for 4 years and lived together for at least half that time. Their engagement is lasting a year because they say that they don't need to rush to get married, since it won't really change anything about their relationship, except that they might kick their housemate out (haha). Also, they are both in steady jobs that they plan to have for a very long time. In other words, they are grownups.
This scares the fucking fuck out of me. Marriage. I'm afraid that all my friends are going to get married and leave me, alone and single, for the married life. Most of my friends are in committed relationships. I am committed to hating relationships for all the pain they've caused me. I've seen relationships turn best friends into sworn enemies, devoted lovers into vengeful haters, and happy, spirited, optimistic souls into cynical victims of depression. Your whole life is a really really really long time (we hope). This is why I enjoy watching "Engaged and Underage" and yelling and throwing things at the screen.
I'm scared of committment!! It's a 100% solid tried and true fact. Every time I've had to commit to something I've been terribly unhappy or found a way out. Why do you think I like short term adventures so much? I just don't see how someone who's 20 years old can feel like they've seen enough of the world to know what they want with the rest of their life.
I'm never getting married. But the day I get married, is the day I get off facebook. Mark my words.
And please please please to all my friends that ARE married/in committed relationships DON'T take this as an attack on your choices!!!! (I love you and respect you!!) What do I know about your relationships? Ultimately, nothing. Ultimately what this comes down to is that I'm scared about growing up, I'm scared as hell of ending up alone, and I'm scared of my friends making crucial life decisions that they might later come to regret.
I'd better go buy a nice yeah-I'm-single-at-my-friend's-wedding-fuck-you-you-don't-know-me dress and get prepared.
UPDATE:
EMILY HOGAN HAS JUST INFORMED ME THAT TWO (2) MORE COUPLES OF OUR FRIENDS ARE ENGAGED.
SERIOUSLY.
SIX.
I WIN.
OR LOSE.
BOTH.
This scares the fucking fuck out of me. Marriage. I'm afraid that all my friends are going to get married and leave me, alone and single, for the married life. Most of my friends are in committed relationships. I am committed to hating relationships for all the pain they've caused me. I've seen relationships turn best friends into sworn enemies, devoted lovers into vengeful haters, and happy, spirited, optimistic souls into cynical victims of depression. Your whole life is a really really really long time (we hope). This is why I enjoy watching "Engaged and Underage" and yelling and throwing things at the screen.
I'm scared of committment!! It's a 100% solid tried and true fact. Every time I've had to commit to something I've been terribly unhappy or found a way out. Why do you think I like short term adventures so much? I just don't see how someone who's 20 years old can feel like they've seen enough of the world to know what they want with the rest of their life.
I'm never getting married. But the day I get married, is the day I get off facebook. Mark my words.
And please please please to all my friends that ARE married/in committed relationships DON'T take this as an attack on your choices!!!! (I love you and respect you!!) What do I know about your relationships? Ultimately, nothing. Ultimately what this comes down to is that I'm scared about growing up, I'm scared as hell of ending up alone, and I'm scared of my friends making crucial life decisions that they might later come to regret.
I'd better go buy a nice yeah-I'm-single-at-my-friend's-wedding-fuck-you-you-don't-know-me dress and get prepared.
UPDATE:
EMILY HOGAN HAS JUST INFORMED ME THAT TWO (2) MORE COUPLES OF OUR FRIENDS ARE ENGAGED.
SERIOUSLY.
SIX.
I WIN.
OR LOSE.
BOTH.