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Let's just say, you probably won't be hearing about Steve for a while. I'm being the smart one and realizing that he's not into me and letting it stay at that.
In my DVI class, Ms. Austin gave us an email that she had received. It's written from a guy stand point and I think I need to post it for all of you girls out there who are being less than smart when it comes to guys. FOR ALL YOU GUYS OUT THERE, this still applies to you, just replace all the "man"s with "woman."
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
*If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
*If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
*Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
*Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
*Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
*Slower is better.
*Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
*If a relationship ends because the man is not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. ("Be friends" means being at a point where you can hear about the other's love lives and be fine with it)
*Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
*Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
*The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
*Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any different? (For you guys, that last part doesn't apply to you since you're not worried about getting married as much as we are, but the first part still applies)
*Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
*Maintain boundaries on how a guy treats you.
*If something bothers you, speak up.
*Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. (This one is on a case by case basis on how much you tell a guy. Be smart and take your time with it. Don't tell your life story on the first date)
*You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
*Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are....even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
*He is a man, nothing more, nothing less.
*Never let a man define who you are.
*Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat ON you.
*A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
*All men are NOT dogs
*You should not be the one doing the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
*You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
*You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
*Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right
*Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him-he takes it for granted
*Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything you need.
*Keep him in your radar but get to know others
"Courage is the art of being the only on who knows you're scared to death." ~*Earl Wilson*~
The funny thing is, I put this on here because of some guy friends that I know. One of my girlfriends is having trouble with a guy that I wouldn't think she would put up with, so this was for her too. But this goes out to all of you, whether you're single or not.
In my DVI class, Ms. Austin gave us an email that she had received. It's written from a guy stand point and I think I need to post it for all of you girls out there who are being less than smart when it comes to guys. FOR ALL YOU GUYS OUT THERE, this still applies to you, just replace all the "man"s with "woman."
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
*If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
*If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
*Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
*Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
*Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
*Slower is better.
*Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
*If a relationship ends because the man is not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. ("Be friends" means being at a point where you can hear about the other's love lives and be fine with it)
*Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
*Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
*The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
*Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any different? (For you guys, that last part doesn't apply to you since you're not worried about getting married as much as we are, but the first part still applies)
*Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
*Maintain boundaries on how a guy treats you.
*If something bothers you, speak up.
*Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. (This one is on a case by case basis on how much you tell a guy. Be smart and take your time with it. Don't tell your life story on the first date)
*You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
*Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are....even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
*He is a man, nothing more, nothing less.
*Never let a man define who you are.
*Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat ON you.
*A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
*All men are NOT dogs
*You should not be the one doing the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
*You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
*You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
*Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right
*Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him-he takes it for granted
*Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything you need.
*Keep him in your radar but get to know others
"Courage is the art of being the only on who knows you're scared to death." ~*Earl Wilson*~
The funny thing is, I put this on here because of some guy friends that I know. One of my girlfriends is having trouble with a guy that I wouldn't think she would put up with, so this was for her too. But this goes out to all of you, whether you're single or not.