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i'm starting to think that it's the transient friendships that put our lives into perspective and question the validity of who we are.
are these people who they seem to be, or are they along with yourself just experiencing a temporary shift in personality, long enough to satisfy the duration of the friendship?
it's so hard to tell because the truth is we are always changing, our plasticity constantly being tested by external influences. maybe those annoyingly cliche quotes about some people coming and going but true friends always being there are actually the most understated facts of life. people do come and go, some make huge impacts before departing from your existence, while others will simply push or pull you in whichever direction they intend to take you.
maybe every intense relationship needs just as much time apart as it had together. in that time you will then reflect on the importance of this person and the role they play in your life. then you will act accordingly in order to keep them around or at a distance.
or, worst case scenario, you were never really friends to begin with, but two people desperately searching for someone who will get them at that exact moment in their lives - someone who they can reach out and talk to and laugh with and enjoy whatever interests seem meaningful at that time. i guess in some way that could be the best case scenario, because it's like getting all the perks without succumbing to the downfalls of commitment.
are these people who they seem to be, or are they along with yourself just experiencing a temporary shift in personality, long enough to satisfy the duration of the friendship?
it's so hard to tell because the truth is we are always changing, our plasticity constantly being tested by external influences. maybe those annoyingly cliche quotes about some people coming and going but true friends always being there are actually the most understated facts of life. people do come and go, some make huge impacts before departing from your existence, while others will simply push or pull you in whichever direction they intend to take you.
maybe every intense relationship needs just as much time apart as it had together. in that time you will then reflect on the importance of this person and the role they play in your life. then you will act accordingly in order to keep them around or at a distance.
or, worst case scenario, you were never really friends to begin with, but two people desperately searching for someone who will get them at that exact moment in their lives - someone who they can reach out and talk to and laugh with and enjoy whatever interests seem meaningful at that time. i guess in some way that could be the best case scenario, because it's like getting all the perks without succumbing to the downfalls of commitment.