Stollen from Eric
We’ve all heard the phrase “Nice guys sleep alone” (Good movie by the way, I know the director too, good guy), but has anyone really thought about what that really means. Well after what I consider a rough night I spent some time considering it. And I think I understand now why this is so true.
Now what you need to take into consideration is the fact that I like to consider myself a “Nice Guy”. But what really is a nice guy. Well taking from my own experiences I think I’ve come up with a fairly suitable definition. The nice guy is that guy that everyone knows and likes to talk to, and is expected to come back even after they’ve been kicked while down. Now really this isn’t probably the best definition ever, so let’s look at characteristics of a nice guy. What must one have to be considered “Nice”?
First off they actually have to be nice. They need to be considerate, and kind. They need to be dependable, someone who you can expect to get done what you need done in a timely manner, but they also need to be selfless. They need to be able to drop everything of theirs on a whim to help you with something you need, regardless of what it might do to them. But I think some of the most important characteristics are harder to give one liners to. It seams to me that the “Nice Guy” needs to be sensitive enough to listen to anything a girl has to say, be free to have free range with a girl, but at the same time, not do anything with it. They are trusted by all their friends to do right and have all the answers, no matter when you ask them. But I think the most important thing they need is the strange desire to come back for more from all their friends, even when they never get anything in return.
Now what is it that causes the “Nice Guy” to be so looked over in society? Well that’s a hard question to answer. Is it that girls don’t want the nice guy, and really want the a-hole for relationships? Well the way I see it is that they actually want the “Nice Guy” around, but at the same time they probably don’t feel that they can be satisfied by them. See the advantage of an a-hole is that they will be rough, and reckless, and all these things tend to get girls going. I think that girls want the adventure that a “Nice Guy” can’t seam to give. But I’m here to inform all the girls out there that you are all wrong. See the nice guy has all sorts of pent up frustrations, or desires, or whatever. See we’re all waiting here by your side when you need us and just hoping you’ll notice us. I hear the word passion thrown around by girls who aren’t satisfied in their relationship. But you know what, the “Nice Guy” has more passion in their little finger then those other guys do in their whole body. Why, because we haven’t wasted it. And I know what you’re all thinking, you probably think I’m referring to in bed, but that’s not it. We have a passion for life that couldn’t possibly be surpassed. I mean think of it, how could someone who gets ignored by everyone not have passion for their own life. They wouldn’t be around if they didn’t. No you’re all missing out on this untapped resource that is standing right next to you.
Maybe it’s the guy that drove you to the mall to go shopping even though he didn’t need to go. Maybe it’s the guy that dropped you off at dinner with friends even though it was out of the way for him. Maybe it’s the guy that’s always there at night to talk to you when you are chilling, or there for you when you’re dealing with something or someone you are frustrated by. But no matter what form it comes in, it’s that guy that will come help you at a drop of a hat. And at the end of they day all he gets from you is a simple “Thank you”. Yeah, by now you know the guy in your life. Maybe sometime you should do something nice for him; I bet you’d be amazed at the appreciation he has for you.
Thanks Eric...you hit the nail on the head...except you forgot, nice girls.
Nice girls seem to have the same stuff happen. I was shot down by the "nice guy", sure we're great friends, but what's the point in trying if even the nice guy says no? and I'm not talking about sex.
Now what you need to take into consideration is the fact that I like to consider myself a “Nice Guy”. But what really is a nice guy. Well taking from my own experiences I think I’ve come up with a fairly suitable definition. The nice guy is that guy that everyone knows and likes to talk to, and is expected to come back even after they’ve been kicked while down. Now really this isn’t probably the best definition ever, so let’s look at characteristics of a nice guy. What must one have to be considered “Nice”?
First off they actually have to be nice. They need to be considerate, and kind. They need to be dependable, someone who you can expect to get done what you need done in a timely manner, but they also need to be selfless. They need to be able to drop everything of theirs on a whim to help you with something you need, regardless of what it might do to them. But I think some of the most important characteristics are harder to give one liners to. It seams to me that the “Nice Guy” needs to be sensitive enough to listen to anything a girl has to say, be free to have free range with a girl, but at the same time, not do anything with it. They are trusted by all their friends to do right and have all the answers, no matter when you ask them. But I think the most important thing they need is the strange desire to come back for more from all their friends, even when they never get anything in return.
Now what is it that causes the “Nice Guy” to be so looked over in society? Well that’s a hard question to answer. Is it that girls don’t want the nice guy, and really want the a-hole for relationships? Well the way I see it is that they actually want the “Nice Guy” around, but at the same time they probably don’t feel that they can be satisfied by them. See the advantage of an a-hole is that they will be rough, and reckless, and all these things tend to get girls going. I think that girls want the adventure that a “Nice Guy” can’t seam to give. But I’m here to inform all the girls out there that you are all wrong. See the nice guy has all sorts of pent up frustrations, or desires, or whatever. See we’re all waiting here by your side when you need us and just hoping you’ll notice us. I hear the word passion thrown around by girls who aren’t satisfied in their relationship. But you know what, the “Nice Guy” has more passion in their little finger then those other guys do in their whole body. Why, because we haven’t wasted it. And I know what you’re all thinking, you probably think I’m referring to in bed, but that’s not it. We have a passion for life that couldn’t possibly be surpassed. I mean think of it, how could someone who gets ignored by everyone not have passion for their own life. They wouldn’t be around if they didn’t. No you’re all missing out on this untapped resource that is standing right next to you.
Maybe it’s the guy that drove you to the mall to go shopping even though he didn’t need to go. Maybe it’s the guy that dropped you off at dinner with friends even though it was out of the way for him. Maybe it’s the guy that’s always there at night to talk to you when you are chilling, or there for you when you’re dealing with something or someone you are frustrated by. But no matter what form it comes in, it’s that guy that will come help you at a drop of a hat. And at the end of they day all he gets from you is a simple “Thank you”. Yeah, by now you know the guy in your life. Maybe sometime you should do something nice for him; I bet you’d be amazed at the appreciation he has for you.
Thanks Eric...you hit the nail on the head...except you forgot, nice girls.
Nice girls seem to have the same stuff happen. I was shot down by the "nice guy", sure we're great friends, but what's the point in trying if even the nice guy says no? and I'm not talking about sex.