Short version: After 7 weeks of marriage...all happy and blissful...he walked. He packed his stuff and moved back in with Mommy and Daddy. There are some key points that I don't want to put up on the internet for all to see but those are the basics. That was almost two months ago now.
We both acted stupid, I handled things wrong so did he. He's pretty much changed into someone I'm not sure about anymore. He's not the man I loved, fell in love with and married. I'd do counseling, but he'll have no part of it. I've come to the conclusion that I just need to take a step back b/c trying to talk to him as if he were the man I loved doesn't work.
Maybe it's just delayed cold feet, on everybody's part. However, the real fault on his part is the fact that he's totally ignoring the fact that he's married. Unless you got an annullment that you're not talking about or know about, that means it's too late for walking out. He's in, and he's locked in, unless he gets a divorce. And if he's going to get a divorce over a fight just a few weeks into a marriage, then he should really sit back and reassess his views of his level of personal maturity. He sounds like an Iraq War protester from Code Pinko, or something. The first time something goes wrong, their answer is to cut and run. While your marriage is still a new investment, even new investments can be expensive (in an emotional sense), and just throwing it out can be an incredibly foolish thing. He should take every means available to fix the problem. If he's not willing to go for counciling, forget him, and go by yourself. Even if the marriage doesn't go back to what it was, it might still give you some more peace of mind
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I am seeing a psychologist. Trying to figure a few things out.
I've had a lot of people tell me that he's just immature and not really a man yet. That he's not able to take on the responsibility of a wife and marriage. In my opinion, at this point, it doesn't matter. We're married...that means forever. He said before we ever got married that there was NOTHING that we couldn't work through, and now he's done this.
I'm not going to dwell on him though. I've taken to not talking to him if he doesn't talk to me. It's not worth it. It hurts a lot to do, but I can't let myself be put in that situation.
Part of the problem is that his mom is meddlesome, he knows this and has known it most of his life. It's hard to see him taking everything she says as the final word right now. I was never good enough in her eyes and maybe that's part of my issue. I don't know.
Well, I'm off to bed. Hopefully I'll be posting more and you'll be around more so we can keep up with each other:)
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Short version: After 7 weeks of marriage...all happy and blissful...he walked. He packed his stuff and moved back in with Mommy and Daddy. There are some key points that I don't want to put up on the internet for all to see but those are the basics. That was almost two months ago now.
We both acted stupid, I handled things wrong so did he. He's pretty much changed into someone I'm not sure about anymore. He's not the man I loved, fell in love with and married. I'd do counseling, but he'll have no part of it. I've come to the conclusion that I just need to take a step back b/c trying to talk to him as if he were the man I loved doesn't work.
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I am seeing a psychologist. Trying to figure a few things out.
I've had a lot of people tell me that he's just immature and not really a man yet. That he's not able to take on the responsibility of a wife and marriage. In my opinion, at this point, it doesn't matter. We're married...that means forever. He said before we ever got married that there was NOTHING that we couldn't work through, and now he's done this.
I'm not going to dwell on him though. I've taken to not talking to him if he doesn't talk to me. It's not worth it. It hurts a lot to do, but I can't let myself be put in that situation.
Part of the problem is that his mom is meddlesome, he knows this and has known it most of his life. It's hard to see him taking everything she says as the final word right now. I was never good enough in her eyes and maybe that's part of my issue. I don't know.
Well, I'm off to bed. Hopefully I'll be posting more and you'll be around more so we can keep up with each other:)
Have a good night!
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