may 8th . yes it is..

[angel_tearz]

So this is the day that should make josh and I six years.. except for the fact that i find myself waking up in someone else's bed... i have been extremely stressed out for the past month and I don't know what to do about it.. so here.. i will give you the countdown

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[reager93]

*Reed sighs a deep breath as he tries to approach this for an entirely 3rd person veiw*

First off I liked Nick's little iceberg idea...quite fitting. But I'd like to add a little note. The part of the iceberg that breaks the surface is usally less than 15% of its acual size. Basically what that means is that unless you really dig, or the other person is quite open. You'll really never see even half the picture.

As for the problems with Ronnie. Well you may be right and you might be making a big deal of nothing. But then again you are talking about your future, your children, and your children's future. And I'd be a fool if I say that wasnt a big deal. Nick is right, people can only be changed or saved if they want to be. And it would seem he doesnt want to be because thats not who he is. I cant look down on anyone for being who they want to be and I wont. So the question that is left is weither the issue is enough to be a major problem for you, or something you can learn to live with and look over. Only you can answer this question, no one else. If the issue is to large to look over then you know what must be done about it. If you can live with it, then live with it.

And lastly for Josh...for this I will simply remind you of the rather long and exhausting track record. Honestly you 2 have fought just as much, if not more than you've gotten along. In this case if you do decide to go that route and marry him. You have to once again think about your kids. You and Josh are going to continue to be you and Josh and sparatically go from best friends to worse enemies on a daily basis. You grew up in a house that jumped from good times to strait out war everyday Carmen. Do you want your kids to see the same?

Now that the third party shit is out of the way my honest advice on the entire matter is this. At this point you are a 20 yr old freshman in college...Last I heard preparing for a year long trip overseas. The words Marriage and Children really shouldnt be on your mind. I dont know how many times you've told me all you want is to be yourself and happy. To live life for Carmen and just her, at least for now. Following that suit I would advice against saying I do anytime soon because that would go against your own ideals. As for Ronnie, if he's keeping you happy...then just enjoy it and not worry about kids, because god willing thats not something thats just around the corner. You still have 3 years of school ahead of you. And then your life is anything you want to make of it. Worry about the ring and kids later. Be happy with you, then worry about being happy with everyone else. But thats just opinion, I could be wrong...and usally I am these days, least it seems that way.

Thats the best advice I, or anyone for that matter can really give.

Night Sweetness,
Micheal

[swishy_fresh]

bingo gringo!... and you know it probaly is something like 15% in real life, scary or what?... you think you can get to know people just by talking to them. It ties in though, scientifically proven, 80% of peoples communication is through body language... so when I talk to you, most of what comes out of my mouth counts for little and you absorb 80% of my body language instead.