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# More Proof That Poly Isn’t Cheating: STI Edition (и новый тэг)
I can understand the confusion- if your definition of “cheating” is “having sex with someone other than your spouse,” then you’re likely to equate poly with breaking the rules. But I always wonder about that- there’s no other area that I can think of in which “cheating” means anything other than “not playing by the rules.” And there’s no reason why we all have to have the same rules.
In soccer, you can touch the ball with any part of your body other than your arms or hands. In basketball, you can only touch the ball with your hands. Cheating in one game is playing by the rules in the other. Similarly, different relationships have different rules. Seems pretty simple to me.
# The Reality of Abortion
So, for your edification, this is what your average abortion actually looks like (фотографии! кровь в банке! никаких "мертвых младенцев"!)
# Women and Emotional Vulnerability
It’s too dangerous to risk it. Even though plenty of men experience depression, alcoholism and other health conditions and diseases that interfere with their work and are deeply rooted in their psyche, this will never be attributed to their gender. We seem slightly upset, and the looming possibility of our period or ever presences of our maternal instincts creates an automatic divide.
# An Open Letter to Men’s Rights Activists
I’ve read complaints that housing and shelters are biased towards women. What I don’t see is an analysis of the situation that reflects the fact that women are much more likely to be living in poverty, especially with children and after being abandoned by a male partner. I also don’t see you volunteering your time and working towards the creation of resources for men. I see you talking about the ways in which child custody decisions are often biased towards women. And I don’t see you helping fathers develop the skills to be more engaged as parents, or helping boys learn the emotional and practical tools that will help them be great fathers. I don’t see you discussing how equality in pay for women would help fathers because they would have more freedom to parent. I don’t see you trying to change anything in the world, though I see you complaining a lot online.
# Symbolic Consequences of the New Definition of “Forcible Rape”
In January the U.S. government announced a new definition of “forcible rape” to include male victims and oral or anal penetration in addition to vaginal. This has legal implications, of course, but also symbolic ones. Language shapes how we experience the world, potentially changing how we feel about an event in our lives.
По следам открытки на PostSecret "By the new definition it happened to me"
I can understand the confusion- if your definition of “cheating” is “having sex with someone other than your spouse,” then you’re likely to equate poly with breaking the rules. But I always wonder about that- there’s no other area that I can think of in which “cheating” means anything other than “not playing by the rules.” And there’s no reason why we all have to have the same rules.
In soccer, you can touch the ball with any part of your body other than your arms or hands. In basketball, you can only touch the ball with your hands. Cheating in one game is playing by the rules in the other. Similarly, different relationships have different rules. Seems pretty simple to me.
# The Reality of Abortion
So, for your edification, this is what your average abortion actually looks like (фотографии! кровь в банке! никаких "мертвых младенцев"!)
# Women and Emotional Vulnerability
It’s too dangerous to risk it. Even though plenty of men experience depression, alcoholism and other health conditions and diseases that interfere with their work and are deeply rooted in their psyche, this will never be attributed to their gender. We seem slightly upset, and the looming possibility of our period or ever presences of our maternal instincts creates an automatic divide.
# An Open Letter to Men’s Rights Activists
I’ve read complaints that housing and shelters are biased towards women. What I don’t see is an analysis of the situation that reflects the fact that women are much more likely to be living in poverty, especially with children and after being abandoned by a male partner. I also don’t see you volunteering your time and working towards the creation of resources for men. I see you talking about the ways in which child custody decisions are often biased towards women. And I don’t see you helping fathers develop the skills to be more engaged as parents, or helping boys learn the emotional and practical tools that will help them be great fathers. I don’t see you discussing how equality in pay for women would help fathers because they would have more freedom to parent. I don’t see you trying to change anything in the world, though I see you complaining a lot online.
# Symbolic Consequences of the New Definition of “Forcible Rape”
In January the U.S. government announced a new definition of “forcible rape” to include male victims and oral or anal penetration in addition to vaginal. This has legal implications, of course, but also symbolic ones. Language shapes how we experience the world, potentially changing how we feel about an event in our lives.
По следам открытки на PostSecret "By the new definition it happened to me"