Companionable Silence
My friend JKL switched to a dual sim phone to add another sim which would be cheaper to make calls to his interest. And since this dual sim phone doesnt allow parallel calls coming in, his phone is out of reach when he is in call with his interest. So he would never know the calls he is actually missing from the other sim when he is talking to his gal. Out of curiosity when I asked him, how long his calls with his gal usually last, he said these days they dont last that long, its only couple of hours ! phew !!
Now I wouldnt be surprised normally, but as far as I know, the gal hasnt reciprocated his feelings yet, though she knows what his feelings towards her are. Right now, its like she wants his time and company, not him though. So every time, we talk, I end up trying to advise him that he is wasting his time and emotions on this gal. And for a friend like JKL who has been with me through all my heartbreaks, I wouldnt ever want him to go through one. And when I ask him how is it that, someone saying no to me is different from someone saying no to him, he laughs it off saying "when a man says No, its a NO, but a woman saying No, it means different things" ! Sounds like Phd to me .
Well since their calls last couple of hours, I asked him what does she generally talk about! He says "nothing" .And I was like "what" ? For which he says, when people are in love, they can communicate through silence. And he feels though she has not reciprocated his love yet, her silence is an indication of many things he can understand about her. He also said its called "companionable silence". He also advised me not to google on that stuff, being the non-stop talkative chatterbox I am, I wouldnt really understand what silence is, even if I am in love. Thank You for that.
As of now, Silence would kill me.