why my husband makes me feel like I'm wrong all the time.
Once upon a time, I used to freak out about little things. I still do. But back then, I'd express my anger vocally. I'd make sure everyone knew what it was they were doing and how it pissed me off. Since getting married, I've learned that husbands will always do things that annoy you, and all you can do is bite your tongue, chuckle to yourself and roll your eyes. It's natural. They do it too. When you tell them about what's going on at work, when you tell them how one of your best friends is being an asshole. It really doesn't matter WHAT you're telling them their minds will always wander off if your conversation doesn't involve sex. Granted, the act of "scoffing" at a loved one is considered to be disrespectful, it's better than yelling at them for something so trivial. The question is, should we apologize for chuckling? When that loved one asks, "what are you rolling your eyes at?" Is it better to go into detail or should we just let them know it's really "no big deal" and move on. I mean, we all KNOW we shouldn't be annoyed by such petty things, and it's not very nice. But is the act of rolling ones eyes something to yell about? Yell until you find out why that person was annoyed to begin with? And then keep yelling until that person apologizes? Or should we just be grateful that the annoyed one didn't flip out over something so minuscule? I think we should be grateful.Especially for someone like me, who has always been very open and opinionated to everyone. I will always be a very talkative girl, but for me to become annoyed and not act in rage is a huge accomplishment. I wouldn't say I have anger issues, but I do have a short fuse. I like things a certain way, I don't like to procrastinate, and I hate laziness. I feel if I can do it, why can't he? What makes him incapable of doing the same things I do? (Other than having a penis)
Being yelled at over something like rolling my eyes, just seems ludicrous and unfair. You yell at someone when they've done wrong to you, when they've betrayed you and when they've hurt you. Not when they roll their eyes. Would America have gone to war with Iraq b/c they "rolled their eyes?" NO! B/c rolling your eyes is not that big of a deal. Especially if it's your way of getting over an annoying subject. Roll your eyes and move on folks, nothing to see here. Just me expressing my anger towards something that irks me. Who cares if what's irking me is minor. It irked me. They're my feelings and I really can't help when something bugs. If I could, it wouldn't bug me anymore. Catch my drift? What I'm trying to say here is, I can't help it when something annoys me. Rather than freaking out at the annoyee, I'll just roll my eyes and you should just get over it and be glad I'm not losing my temper. Maybe if you had the control I did, you'd be able to roll YOUR eyes back at me after I roll MY eyes.
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Being yelled at over something like rolling my eyes, just seems ludicrous and unfair. You yell at someone when they've done wrong to you, when they've betrayed you and when they've hurt you. Not when they roll their eyes. Would America have gone to war with Iraq b/c they "rolled their eyes?" NO! B/c rolling your eyes is not that big of a deal. Especially if it's your way of getting over an annoying subject. Roll your eyes and move on folks, nothing to see here. Just me expressing my anger towards something that irks me. Who cares if what's irking me is minor. It irked me. They're my feelings and I really can't help when something bugs. If I could, it wouldn't bug me anymore. Catch my drift? What I'm trying to say here is, I can't help it when something annoys me. Rather than freaking out at the annoyee, I'll just roll my eyes and you should just get over it and be glad I'm not losing my temper. Maybe if you had the control I did, you'd be able to roll YOUR eyes back at me after I roll MY eyes.
Hope everyone has a Happy Hallmark Holiday.